Straight friend... I think?

[Gayboy2015]

Hey guys. I am 14 and gay and i have this friend that I really like, but idk if he really likes me back. We text each other alot and we always tell each other that we love each other. He'll sometimes put his hand on my leg and smile, and once he was gently hitting my butt. Also, he says he's there for me. As for his romantic life, he never has a girlfriend for too long, and he currently doesn't have one. Is now my chance? Also, he compliments me and says he misses me when we haven't been together for a while (he was sick fr about a week and I said I missed him and he said he missed me too.) do basically what I'm asking is if he likes me back, and even if he doesn't, how could I make our relationship a little more personal and sexual? Sorry or the long intro but the info is very important. Thank you!!!!!

[Can'tHelpIt]

Sounds like it. :)
But you can never really tell, thats why I was and still am the least confident person for asking a person out theres always the possibility of no
And does he know you're gay?

[Gayboy2015]

No he doesnt. I don't wanna freak him out, but not Doing anything about it hurts me so much. I've never felt so right about anyone before. I love him so much. :/

[Can'tHelpIt]

I want to tell you to risk it but last like four times I risked it I was turned down... and those were girls. I wouldn't risk it bc thats me but you have two options
1 risk it
2 keep it a secret and hope he asks you

[Gayboy2015]

Is there a way to ask, but then if he freaks out, that I could get him to calm down or make it into a joke, or say I meant it in a "bromance" sort of way?

[canadaski]

I sounds like he's into you. You're a lucky guy. I'm really into my friend but he's got no idea. I wish he knew but I don't know how he'd react.

Your best bet now is to hint about liking your friend, by doing this it can go either way depending on how he reacts.

Best of luck to you.

[Can'tHelpIt]

Is there a way to ask, but then if he freaks out, that I could get him to calm down or make it into a joke, or say I meant it in a "bromance" sort of way?

If there is i would like to know

[canadaski]

If there is i would like to know

You could say you really like hanging out with him. That can mean one of several things. If you want to clariy a bit more, that's your choice.


You can't assume he's straight, but you can't assume he's gay. You likely can't ask him without offending him, and if he is gay he'll probably answer dishonestly.

The only way is to take it slow by using vague statements. Get him thinking it without saying it directly. This gives it time to sink in.

i did this coming out to my friends, I joked about gay pornstars etc and eventually started saying stuff like "this guy is hot." I also defend gay rights when one of them call something gay or uses the word fag. They'd have to be stupid not to get the picture. I'll eventually say it though.


Just take it slow.

Good luck.

[Christheman]

It sounds like he's gay... and he's into you lol

[nameless12]

well i don't knooow, looks can be deceiving.
maybe he bi or maybe his gay, still, i think that you should try to give him a bit more hints or tell him your gay in the first place :), just be sure to tell him in a kind of... gentle way so that he doesn't freaks out. what he does sounds a bit more intentional than just a joke or playing around. anyways, best of luck to you mate :D

[Levi scott]

Agreed with nameless forsure atleast thats what i would do.

[Gayboy2015]

What should I say though?

[WonderTastic]

No he doesnt. I don't wanna freak him out, but not Doing anything about it hurts me so much. I've never felt so right about anyone before. I love him so much. :/

man i got it bad too like im in love with a str8 guy and dont even text me back. im out my mind about him and its just sobad im writing songs ..... i promised id leave him alone but i cant let him go like idk he dont even know im bi i think ... just his smile lights up my world and life wouldn't be life without him ........idk know what to do like if we do get together he wouldn't love me just smash me and id let him plus he is a horrible boyfriend to his girlfriend so yea :( im dieing

[Gayboy2015]

That's exactly how I feel! But we text alot, but he always takes awhile to reply. Is he playing hard to get? Also I found out he's done alot with girls, but I know he never has a girlfriend for that long. Don't get me wrong it's not like he's using them, he's not like that. I always look at him and he looks back and then we both smile. I know that there must be something there. There has to be. I just can't give up. I love him too much, and it's killing me to not be with him. Every minute that we're not talking or hanging out, I die a little inside. But every minute that we are, it feels like I just won the lottery or something. Please help. If I can't be with him..... Then idk whats going to happen to my heart.

[jamesscott]

sounds like the time to take the next step. Just be serious and talk to him about it. wherver u do dont let him slip away i made that mistake and will never again. Best of luck to you.

[Gayboy2015]

But what if he freaks out? I don't wanna lose him as a friend too. I wouldn't care if he told the entire freaking universe about me being gay as long as we were together. :/ I really do wanna take it to the next level... More info: he wants to go to a movie together. Alone. Not with any friends. Just us.

[CrossingtheCourtyard]

Perhaps before telling him you are interested in him you should come out to him and see how he reacts. It may give hints on how to move forward from there.

But what if he freaks out? I don't wanna lose him as a friend too. I wouldn't care if he told the entire freaking universe about me being gay as long as we were together. :/ I really do wanna take it to the next level... More info: he wants to go to a movie together. Alone. Not with any friends. Just us.

If he freaks out then you will need to try and calm him down and if he isn't interested, explain that things don't need to change between you and that you just wanted to let him know so you could move on.

Go to that movie. Go. Go!

Really, if he wants to go just the two of you take it as a good sign and accept his offer.

[nameless12]

oh WOW!... he wants just the two of you... alone... to go to the movies... sounds to me like he wants to be with you reaaal close :P,i think you should tell him that you like other guys in there, and if things work out nice and soft, tell him the real truth :)

[Gayboy2015]

Thanks for all the advice guys. And more info: I texted him last night and said "hey. Wanna talk?" and he said "sure. About?" is he hinting that he wants me to tell him something? And nameless I didn't understand that last sentence of yours.

[nameless12]

what i said is that, when you went to the movies just with him, that you should try to tell him that you like other guys, and that if he reacts in a good way and still feels really comfortable, that you should try to tell him that you like HIM. thats just my opinion, and i dont think he's hinting with just those two words. :P