teenmanchester
February 1st, 2012, 06:49 PM
(Btw this could be a long post) Hey guys, been a while since my last post, im Sam, 16 from tameside in England. A few months i posted a status about coming out before starting in september 2011 (for ppl outside the uk, college is for 16-18 yr olds before university and after high school). I said i was going to try to but ultimately didnt because the time wasnt right and tried to come out before the new year but again didnt.
So I went to a new yrs eve party at a local pub (my 1st new year away from my family) and i had a lot of fun and was going to the party upstairs after it. Anyway one of my friends friend is 18 or 19 and lives upstairs and kept on saying i was cool and stuff and everyone celebrated the new year. Everything was going well and everyone got drunk and the guy kept on hugging me which is fine because lots of people i know hug each other even guys hugging but its all cool. But he said I was cute and I was gobsmacked and just said yh and walked away because i wasnt sure what to make of it. He kept on going into the same room i was in and kept on hugging me. Eventually i went to the bathroom on my own and he came in and really hugged me after i felt sick and started kissing my neck and i did the same because i was out of it. It was nearly quarter to 6 in the morning and i just wanted to go because of that happening and after telling him i'd be fine i walked home alone.
So for the next couple of days im going over this thinking wth as i wasnt attracted to him at all and he isnt my type of person and avoided his fb request. He sent me a message saying sorry for what he did but he liked me and thinks he's bicurious. Naturally i felt flattered but replied saying that i wouldnt tell anyone and that i wasnt 'that way' (something i didnt like putting but i barely knew the guy). He said it was cool and we havent spoken since. So 1st i'd like to know did I do anything wrong? Did I do the right thing?
Also right now people keep on saying that I fancy a couple of girls and i say that even though i like them, i dont see them in that way. And my family always ask if i've met anyone yet and im getting really frustrated because of it. I know i need to come out soon and im really close to doing that (i even said i was gay at that party with 3 of my friends in the room but they were drunk and werent listening so nothing happened because of it). Not gonna ask the normal coming out stuff but the first person i want to tell is my mum so my second question is Should i tell her on her own? With her fiance present or with my mum, her fiance and my sister (all my main family)?
Thanks for reading this long post, hopefully i can get some feedback and answers, glad to get this off my chest and just ask me if any of it is confusing :) x
Sam
So I went to a new yrs eve party at a local pub (my 1st new year away from my family) and i had a lot of fun and was going to the party upstairs after it. Anyway one of my friends friend is 18 or 19 and lives upstairs and kept on saying i was cool and stuff and everyone celebrated the new year. Everything was going well and everyone got drunk and the guy kept on hugging me which is fine because lots of people i know hug each other even guys hugging but its all cool. But he said I was cute and I was gobsmacked and just said yh and walked away because i wasnt sure what to make of it. He kept on going into the same room i was in and kept on hugging me. Eventually i went to the bathroom on my own and he came in and really hugged me after i felt sick and started kissing my neck and i did the same because i was out of it. It was nearly quarter to 6 in the morning and i just wanted to go because of that happening and after telling him i'd be fine i walked home alone.
So for the next couple of days im going over this thinking wth as i wasnt attracted to him at all and he isnt my type of person and avoided his fb request. He sent me a message saying sorry for what he did but he liked me and thinks he's bicurious. Naturally i felt flattered but replied saying that i wouldnt tell anyone and that i wasnt 'that way' (something i didnt like putting but i barely knew the guy). He said it was cool and we havent spoken since. So 1st i'd like to know did I do anything wrong? Did I do the right thing?
Also right now people keep on saying that I fancy a couple of girls and i say that even though i like them, i dont see them in that way. And my family always ask if i've met anyone yet and im getting really frustrated because of it. I know i need to come out soon and im really close to doing that (i even said i was gay at that party with 3 of my friends in the room but they were drunk and werent listening so nothing happened because of it). Not gonna ask the normal coming out stuff but the first person i want to tell is my mum so my second question is Should i tell her on her own? With her fiance present or with my mum, her fiance and my sister (all my main family)?
Thanks for reading this long post, hopefully i can get some feedback and answers, glad to get this off my chest and just ask me if any of it is confusing :) x
Sam