Not a friend after all

[SimSailorNick]

So there's this person who I thought was my friend but I found out that he has been lying to me and he has been fake and plastic almost all the time, not just to me, but to everyone. I have heard so many bad things he has done. Back-stab, ruin people's reputation, tell lies just to make himself look better, you name it and he has done it. He has told everyone secrets that were very deep and no one should have known about and he lies to take credit for things he hardly or never did.

There was one time, we had one classmate who was running for an officer position. Since he really hated that person at the time he planned something really bad. If our classmate won, he would have leaked a shirtless picture of that person who was, let's just say, really insecure about his weight and figure. Isn't that just mean?

Now, I'm trying to avoid him and everyone who asks me why, I just tell them that he's a fake effing liar. I've forgiven him a lot of times but this past few days were really the last straw. What do you think I should do?

[Schnope]

It pretty much sounds to me like you have had enough of his crap. Why did you think you were friends with him before? Maybe try speaking to him and asking him he is doing those things, he could be insecure about something. You say that you have forgiven him alot of times, but the past few days were the last straw. What did he do exactly? It sounds like he really pissed you off.

If you've had enough just forget about him, you could do better than that, and you don't need to hang around people who has a negative influence on you.

[Mortal Coil]

It's none of their business why you're trying to avoid him. Make something up or tell them that it's personal. This guy sounds like an asshole.

[Auzzie 94]

So there's this person who I thought was my friend but I found out that he has been lying to me and he has been fake and plastic almost all the time, not just to me, but to everyone. I have heard so many bad things he has done. Back-stab, ruin people's reputation, tell lies just to make himself look better, you name it and he has done it. He has told everyone secrets that were very deep and no one should have known about and he lies to take credit for things he hardly or never did.

There was one time, we had one classmate who was running for an officer position. Since he really hated that person at the time he planned something really bad. If our classmate won, he would have leaked a shirtless picture of that person who was, let's just say, really insecure about his weight and figure. Isn't that just mean?

Now, I'm trying to avoid him and everyone who asks me why, I just tell them that he's a fake effing liar. I've forgiven him a lot of times but this past few days were really the last straw. What do you think I should do?

I have had this experience too. My best friend for a few years (let's say his name is Fred). Fred and I were best mates for a while, we used to chill together a lot, we started chilling with a group of his friends for a while and I liked his group of mates they were all funny and liked to have a laugh all the time, anyway, Fred told me I was like a brother to him and that we were brothers just without the same blood, he said he'd do anything for me and that he had my back forever. One day one of his friends wrote stuff on my Facebook wall teasing my Dad who was in hospital and teasing one of my Grandparents who passed away. One of his friend's comments were "Hahaha Nik, she deserves to be dead, fuck her, i'd piss on her grave" I payed no attention to it or any of the other fucked up comments left by him, eventually people commented on his posts on my Facebook wall calling him a heartless pig and stuff. Anyway my supposed "brother" Fred, didn't even tell his friend off for saying that stuff about my family.... and didn't even say "Look Nik, don't worry about him, he's a dickhead". He kept quiet for about a week, didn't msg me on Facebook or my phone which was unusual. So I curiously messaged him saying "Fuck (name of his friend who said that shit) is a dog, how could anyone say that shit...." and he replied "Oh well, get over it, i'm staying out of it, not my problem". I was like wow.. what a fake c*nt.... I thought he had my back, load of bullshit. Few months later Fred and his friend sent me a message laughing about my dead Gramdma, and I told them both if I see them again I will fuck them up so bad and make them both beg and pray that I stop (I said it out of anger because my Grandma raised me as a kid from when I was 1 til I was 10. She was a big part of my life and I loved her with my whole heart, she was like a 2nd mother to me). But now that I think about what I said to them, if I saw them infront of my right now, I would go mental.... anger and hate would get the better of me. I believe I would even go to the extent of severely hurting them or even killing both or one of them just out of uncontrollable anger. I've never felt this angry before over anything, and I don't usually get even the slightest bit angry.

Your situation isn't as touchy as mine... since my fake friend didn't care that one of his friends said crap about my sick father who was in hospital and my dead Grandma.... and then he eventually joined in on saying stuff about my Grandma. So don't threaten him like I threatened my fake friend and his friend... just tell him straight up "You're such a slack friend, I can't believe you were pretending to be my friend, you are a vile person" or something like that and he will really feel it and he will eventually feel sad... say something like "I was a good friend to you, I would have done anything for you man, I can't believe you did this" and he will feel soooooooooo bad.

[Desuetude]

If you feel that you cant take any more of his crap then don't. You dont owe anyone an answer to why you dont want to be friends with him, just say that you "grew apart" many teens find that they start to like different things than their friends and stand in different social circles.
Its sick that he finds it right to make fun of people and kill their self esteem and its probably all because of jealously. You dont need someone like him in your life. just involve yourself with people you like and trust. like you said he's had enough "second" chances and if he's carrying on then is he really worth it? i mean with you staying friends with him what are you gaining?
You shouldn't worry to much about what other people think and just go your own way.

[ImCoolBeans]

Do what's in your best interest. In a situation like this, you don't need to be thinking about him. If you have good reason, which it appears you do, sometimes letting go of a friendship is for the better.

Now lets say in a few weeks feelings are cleared up - don't be afraid to say something to him about how you were angry and needed a little space/time to cool off. Also, in this situation confronting him about the issue can help solve it, but thats only if you want to.