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smalltowngirl9189
January 30th, 2012, 11:17 PM
Okay, so i've had really bad relationships before and i thought I had finally found someone that understood me and I let him into my heart and my secrets. He's barely talking to me and on webcam he's really outgoing, but when we are in person he barely hugs me. I'm scared that he's going to hurt me. I don't know what to do. I know I have a lot of baggage but I'm scared I may loose the one I love because of it. :'(
Vonn
January 30th, 2012, 11:28 PM
Okay, so i've had really bad relationships before

That's the case with most people.

and i thought I had finally found someone that understood me and I let him into my heart and my secrets.

That tends to follow soon afterwards.

He's barely talking to me and on webcam he's really outgoing, but when we are in person he barely hugs me.

So tell him. Call him out on it. Point that shit out and see what he says.

I'm scared that he's going to hurt me.

You don't completely trust him, then. I don't blame you, if he's going to act like two different people.

I don't know what to do. I know I have a lot of baggage but I'm scared I may loose the one I love because of it. :'(

The answer is so simple and yet so unacknowledged: communication. Open your mouth and say something to him. Don't sit around waiting for him to magically know what you're feeling. Relationships will crash and burn if nobody says anything.
embers
February 1st, 2012, 10:54 AM
TWPR :arrow: Relationships & Dating
botwa
February 2nd, 2012, 09:08 AM
why not simply ask why he acts like that?
DaylightDusk
February 2nd, 2012, 10:48 AM
Maybe he is scared of you hurting him, and he is just being careful. Let your heart do the thinking :)
smalltowngirl9189
February 3rd, 2012, 08:14 PM
I have communicated with him. He doesn't listen to me.. I don't know what to do.
kenoloor
February 4th, 2012, 12:32 AM
I have communicated with him. He doesn't listen to me.. I don't know what to do.

If you can't communicate with someone, you can't expect a lasting/meaningful/legitimate/committed/whatever relationship with that particular individual.
Aves
February 4th, 2012, 02:08 AM
If you can't communicate with someone, you can't expect a lasting/meaningful/legitimate/committed/whatever relationship with that particular individual.

Essentially this. If he is absolutely not able to communicate, the relationship isn't worth it. Relationships aren't going to work if both parties cannot express feelings/ideas/differences/just about whatever and both parties listen, comprehend, and remember what has been said.