It's been a year

[Mutibann]

My dad died of a heart attack a year ago(January 29, 2011) and I don't feel any better at all. I know it takes time to heal and move on, but I thought I would at least feel a little better by now. I think I might actually feel worse.

[Alexithymia]

Death is hard. I won't say that it's not. But the moving on part... that's harder in my opinion. Because if you move on too soon, you feel guilty that you're not respecting him. Too late, and you've spent so much time... so much time. But you have to do it.

I'm not an expert on death and grief, but I have had a bit of it in my life. One thing that might help is doing something new, something that wasn't at all related to him. Maybe it's something easy or maybe it's something hard. But in the end, that's just avoiding it.

My best idea on how to help move on is to just respect him. Maybe it's different for you, but for me it's to realize that he wouldn't wanted you to spend this much time missing him. He wanted the best for you, and he certainly wouldn't want this. Maybe what you have to do is different. Maybe you have to talk to someone. This is just how I deal with it.

[Mortal Coil]

The only way to get over it is to get through it. Like the other guy who posted, I'm not an expert, but I've been through the loss of a close family member and can tell you that even if you never forget him, you can stop mourning him.
Try to stay busy for the next seven months or so. In general, it takes eighteen months, although yours seems to be delayed onset grief (mine was too), and once you've lived for long enough without him you'll stop missing him as much. It may help to keep photos of him or his old possessions out of sight, at least while the grief still hurts like this.
I'm sorry about your dad, and hope that you manage to move on.

[northskater110]

Death does suck man, there is no doubt about it. I have come to believe that the ones I have loved that unfortunately passed away would never want me to feel sad or angry about their passing, but instead rejoice in the times that were spent together. Try to keep that in mind if you are ever feeling down again. Also, if you need somebody to talk to, PM me! I am always here for you and anybody that needs a friend.