Having Babies...

[Oakley]

Do you think it would be a bad idea to try and have a baby? My Gf and I really want too, but we are soo young..Any thoughts?

[Desuetude]

Your 14, it's not fair on the baby or your families having one so young I mean how are you going to support it, how are you going to finish school and get good jobs so you can look after it when your older. You have to think about what would be right for the baby, not what you want at an age when sex is illegal. I think wait until at least 16, if you are still together going strong then maybe consider it, having a baby should be taken lightly.

[brooklyn]

at 14 its not the best idea. i had a kid at 15 and he is now 2 and it was really challenging for me and it would be even more challenging for u and ur gf so if i were u i would wait

[Oakley]

Ok, Little Sunshine Applebottom and DaNathan-Notorious will have to wait then.

[StoppingTime]

No, I in absolutely no way recommend this, AT ALL!

Ask yourself a few key questions:


How would you support it?
How would you finish school
How could you get a job (legally you can at 16, but nothing that pays anywhere close to high enough)
Do you think your parents would want this?
Would you want to have to force them to help?
Does your girlfriend realize what pregnancy requires?


Those are a few, now what do you think?

[Desuetude]

Woah I suggest you don't go with the names either, I know it's not my place to say but, really??

[Oakley]

Woah I suggest you don't go with the names either, I know it's not my place to say but, really??

Those are beautiful names that we picked out together...and i guess we will wait and see how our relationship goes before we try anything..

[StoppingTime]

And at least five years....


I really hope you are trolling with those names...

[Desuetude]

Those are beautiful names that we picked out together...and i guess we will wait and see how our relationship goes before we try anything..

Ok, yeah, very rarely do couples stay together through school and still end up getting married an having kids. No child should have to go through a divorce, it's not the way things are meant to be.

[Oakley]

And at least five years....


I really hope you are trolling with those names...

Im not trolling.

[ImCoolBeans]

Having a child at such a young age, planned or not, will probably be the end of your life. Not only will it end your social life completely, but you will struggle terribly in school - and you can pretty much say good-bye to college and your future career plans since you'd be basically throwing your education away. I also have a very hard time believing you would be able to support the child, unless your parents are prepared to take on your baby.

I highly recommend against this and I seriously hope you will reconsider this...

[CrossingtheCourtyard]

I'm curious, may I ask, without being judgmental, how long have you been together with your partner? Your signature says 'Going on 2 Months' does that refer to how long you've been together with them?

Personally I would want to be in a relationship for a few years before even considering children--plus I would want to have finished school have a job and be in my late twenties/early thirties (I want to have some fun, travel and see the world before I even consider kids)

[xban]

You're crazy, that's what I'm sincerely thinking.

[ackmedsgirl666]

dont try to have a kid unless ur ready financially and emotionally. its hard to have a kid at a young age.. me i was pregnant but i had a miscarriage and since then i have started to be smarter and wear condoms so i dont wind up pregnant since especially im 18 and my bf is 17. i wasnt ready when my ex forced it on me. but if u wanna have a kid thats ur chpice im not here to make ur desisons for u but i think u should be wise about the choices u make having a kid now

[Mtc 10]

You are what 14. At 14 you don't know what love is.! my friend you are basically in a play relationship. Most likely you wont even be with that chick long enough for the baby to be born! Its a big responsibility that you are not capable of fufilling! You are in no way possible to support a child. You can't even get a job! Well one nice enough to support a child. That would be inconsiderate to your family and hers.. These people are saying schooling screw schooling what about life!?

[Chris95]

I feel horrible for your baby, whether you have it now or anytime in the future.

[Mortal Coil]

I think it's admirable that the two of you are close enough to think about having kids, but maybe wait a while. I know that all of us teenagers can be impulsive at times, and honestly don't think that you two having a baby right now is a good idea.
If you still want her to have your kid in, say, 2 years, and she's still up for it, that's impressive, but a kid is a long-term investment. A kid means almost 20 years when you're going to have to take care of someone else, while your parents don't even think you can take care of yourselves.

[christianteen]

No offence but those names are a total joke. If people with the name Dick get bullied in school I can't imagine the terror and torment a kid with the name Sunshine Applebottom or DaNathan-Notorious would have to go through.

Besides, when I hear stories like this I cringe. I was watching T.V one night there was this story about a 13 year old who had 3 kids and wanted 8 by the times she turned 18!

Of course she had no job and she had dropped out of school illegally. She was relying on government support and her anxious and stressed mother to help her. Basically, she had ruined her life.

The moral of the story is, don't have kids when you're young because when you are young you can make very irrational choices. Don't let this be one of them!

[Auzzie 94]

Do you think it would be a bad idea to try and have a baby? My Gf and I really want too, but we are soo young..Any thoughts?

I'm 18 and I am currently single, I have brought this subject up with one girlfriend in the past (I was 17 at the time) she said she'd never have a baby until she is 25+, you have so much more to see and do in life. There's always time for a baby/babies (just don't leave it too late 45+), I want to see the world and do alot more before I have a kid, I want to enjoy being free, then think about settling down. At 14, I would recommend you don't try for a kid, you're still young man, but it's entirely up to you.

[OzGirlRachael]

That's crazy to even think about it.

[kaiba]

yes really really really really bad idea, she must have some parent issues if she's thinking about that at this age

[Rawiyah]

If it's true, firstly, according to your signature you've only been dating "steadily" for two months. Average couples generally stay together for six months before engaging and a year before TTC.

I think you're in over your heads and you need to sit your asses down, grow up, and make wiser, smarter decisions and thoughts before even attempting TTC.

[Auzzie 94]

If it's true, firstly, according to your signature you've only been dating "steadily" for two months. Average couples generally stay together for six months before engaging and a year before TTC.

I think you're in over your heads and you need to sit your asses down, grow up, and make wiser, smarter decisions and thoughts before even attempting TTC.

The PERFECT answer. Seriously man, at 14 you are thinking of having a child... can I ask which one of you are going to leave school to get a well paying job to support your kid? Sorry but at 14 there aren't many well paying jobs buddy. I'm 18 and my job is steady and well paying but it's bloody hard work. If you do end up having a kid get a trade/apprenticeship you'll earn shit all but you will gain in experience then after your apprenticeship find a job and you'll earn good cash especially if you do something along the lines of an electrician, concreter (what I do), bricklayer or carpenter... I've laid bricks before it's hard work, if you aren't physically fit and strong you'll hurt yourself. Concreting is boring and is also hard work. My father was an electrician (retired) and he earned very good money, he worked for himself. Carpenting is great cash but is still fairly hard... just thought i'd give you a few ideas. Good luck with your decision mate, hope it works out whichever way you chose to go.

[Rayquaza]

Are you even serious about these names?
Anyways, my advice, No. You should focus on your education. otherwise you would be some 14 year old kid in a dodgy place living of benefits with no job because you cant support yourself, and its unfair on the baby. Sorry if that sounds harsh, but typically that is what will happen.

[Electra Heart]

I don't even... I seriously hope that you aren't planning to reproduce at 14... Your life will be OVER.

[Human]

Are you joking?!

[Oakley]

Ok i get it, we were probably gonna wait anyways..but seriously, yalls are rude bout the names.

[Weeping_Angel]

I don't think that having a baby at such a young age, would be the right way to go. Aside from the fact that you probably have no money to take care of the baby, teenage pregnancies prevent the mother from concentrating in school, and sometimes causes them to drop out. Mi think that at fourteen, you should be wearing a condom at all times when you have sex, and that it would be the safest way to go, considering you're only 14.

[StoppingTime]

Le no.

[Oakley]

Yeah they would be hella tight

[Quercus]

...Horrible idea!
My ex-gf and I thought about having a baby when we were 16... we dated for a year and thought we loved each other and we were gonna last forever!!!! :whoops:

Im glad we didnt, things ended pretty ugly and we broke up!

Another thing your 14.. way to young. Things would be very painful for her.

[ImCoolBeans]

Hey guys, we're here to talk about why he should or should not have a baby with his girlfriend - not bash the names he had picked out. If this continues infractions will be given out, so stay on topic please.

[supadupahitz]

I suggest psychiatric help. You can't possibly be right in the head if you're even thinking you could be a good parent at 14, financially, emotionally, or otherwise.

[Benbomber]

20 or older, and use a condom for now.

[Smith98]

Don't screw yourself by having a kid but if you want to piss your life down your leg, be my guest. Anyone even considering this has yet to have reality slap them across the face

[Auzzie 94]

Don't screw yourself by having a kid but if you want to piss your life down your leg, be my guest. Anyone even considering this has yet to have reality slap them across the face

Lol'd at this answer, but it's quite true!