No idea anymore...

[Electra Heart]

So, for a while I was pretty sure that I was Bi, but now I am VERY confused. I like girls emotionally but too a certain extent. As far as physically, I'm not super into vagina... they kind of gross me out especially with hair. Breasts however are nice :P. As far as guys, I am DEFINITELY more attracted to them physically, sometimes it even makes it hard to concentrate. I can't say that I'm not emotionally attracted to guys since I've never met a guy that didn't claim to be 100% straight but call everyone else gay. Some people at my school can even pick up on this. Half of people think I'm straight, half think I'm gay. I've had about a dozen girls who think I'm gay run up to me and ask me things like "Do I look faaaat?" "What's it like giving a blowjob?" "Does this tank top make my boobs look small" etc. etc. Anyway, I am just at a loss of what to classify myself as. I know I'm not straight, I know I'm not gay, and I know there's a billion things in between but which of those billion am I? I am also currently being hit on by tons of girls and I don't know if they actually want a relationship or they just think they can because they think I'm gay. If you have any advice on how to identify myself or deal with any of these issues, it would be greatly appreciated, Thanks.

[Martin22]

Well really it is a thing that only time and your feelings can tell. I have no real advice other than wait and you will find out for yourself.

[ackmedsgirl666]

not sure what to say
wait it out and see what happens
if experimenting makes u happy go for it!!!!!
whatever floats your boat hun :)

[Camazot]

i think ur gay guy thats slightly attracted to the female race...maybe ur this way becuz u cant accept the fact that u might b3 gay so u hold on to the fact that u still like girls.

also just becuz u like boobs doesnt mean ur not gay...my band teacher is fullblown gay (but not a flamer) and he still loves boobs lol good luk hope this helped though its very straight forward

[canadaski]

Think about this. There are men and women who live a straight life up until 40 or later, and they don't question their life. They enjoy (at least somewhat) sex with the opposite gender, they feel comfortable with the opposite gender, but at some point they realize "hey, this isn't me and I don't think it ever was." Just because you are attracted to a small element of the opposite gender does not mean that you are attracted to them. Sexuality goes much deeper than people think. You don't have to think like "eww, a vagina" to be gay. There are feelings and emotions much more powerful than physical attraction that determine sexuality.

There was a point when I really thought I was straight. Everybody was saying Megan Fox this and Megan Fox that. I could never really get the "knot in the stomach" feeling towards a girl as I do now when I'm attracted to a guy. I've never experienced the same powerful emotions towards a girl as I have with a guy. I've never cried over a girl like I have over a guy.

You wouldn't spend the rest of your life with someone because you don't mind their breasts, would you?

To be completely honest, I've always been a literal guy. I thought "3.8% of the population is gay, what are my chances I fit into that category." It never occurred to me that I may be part of that 3.8%. It may seem unlikely, but if other people are in there, why would I be an exception?

Nobody can tell you your sexuality. It's time to start asking yourself some serious questions. You might get some interesting answers. Being gay is perfectly alright, as is being straight. It's up to you to figure that out though.

Watch this from around 6:45 and listen to what he says about his relationships with women.

_hOTUlPnb-I

[Electra Heart]

Thank you everyone for your help, I understand it's a complicated subject and there are things I need to ask myself in order to find out who I am.

[kenoloor]

Why are you in such a hurry to find a label for yourself? Are labels that important to you?

The only purpose labels serve is another box that you'll be forced to fit into. For now--especially now--enjoy your sexuality in whatever way feels good. You don't have to label yourself to feel good.

[canadaski]

Why are you in such a hurry to find a label for yourself? Are labels that important to you?

The only purpose labels serve is another box that you'll be forced to fit into. For now--especially now--enjoy your sexuality in whatever way feels good. You don't have to label yourself to feel good.

I can definitely understand where you're coming from and I agree to a certain point. Labeling yourself brings a degree of closure to your situation and lets other people know who you really are, making it easier to find other people like yourself and form a relationship.

[kenoloor]

I can definitely understand where you're coming from and I agree to a certain point. Labeling yourself brings a degree of closure to your situation and lets other people know who you really are, making it easier to find other people like yourself and form a relationship.

Depending on the situation, yes. However, labels can also form a mental barricade from meeting people with whom you might form a relationship, romantic or otherwise. They function as a barrier separating you from people "not like" you, and often promote an us-against-them mindset. Obviously, more open-ended labels, like "queer," allow for more flexibility, but they can still perpetuate that kind of perspective.

Humans like to compartmentalize; we become comfortable with things when we can put them into a specific box. However, as I said, it can be socially harmful--in some cases--to smack a label on yourself. As soon as you do that, people will attach some sort of expectation regarding how you should act, dress, think, communicate, etc. regardless of whether you actually do those things.

I understand the need for a label, I really do. I've been there, many times. But because of how my identity evolved over the years, what really brought closure to it all was freeing myself from those labels. They had been restricting me.

/sermon

[Biscuithead13]

If it helps, you can read my thread "I thought I was Bi but Now I'm Even More Confused." The advice and help I have gotten in that thread is simply amazing!