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FullyAlive
January 26th, 2012, 03:14 PM
I'm just really sad at the moment and i'm not sure why. I'll have extremely happy moments for a couple of hours but then its like I burn out. I just have no energy to do anything. I keep crying I literally just burst into tears at regular intervals throughout the day. Three teachers have noticed there's something different about me and asked what's wrong but I don't know what to tell them. My mum is getting worried about me and I don't know what to tell her either. She just wants a normal daughter and I can't help but feel like i'm not good enough.
I don't know I just feel like i'm really alone at the moment, and sad and its making my life really difficult. I'm finding it hard to sleep, and get really emotional and irritable.
I'm scared that all my friends want to leave me and its sort of irrational, but I feel really isolated.
I don't really know what I want just some suggestions on how to snap out of this I just feel really down and its taking its toll. Any help?
Desuetude
January 26th, 2012, 03:53 PM
Hey i'm really sorry you feel like this, you don't deserve to. You really need to try and find out whats making you feel like this. Maybe your not getting enough sleep ot not eating properly, that could be why you have no energy? It could just be hormones? If it carrys on maybe you should talk to a doctor about it, you can get mood stabilisers which should help you stop feeling down. If your mum is worried about you then maybe you should talk to her, she might be more understanding than you think.
If your finding it hard to sleep try relaxing a few hours before you go to bed, maybe have a bath and read, don't go on the computer or watch tv as it will wake you up more. I'm sure you're friends don't want to leave you, if they would want to help you and know whats wrong. If you feel like they are drawing away from you then maybe they can see something is wrong and are trying to give you some space, try talking to them about it im sure they would help in any way they could.
You just need to believe that things will get better, thinking positively really does help, don't ever think your not good enough it will just bring you down more, keep yourself busy and do things that make you happy and that you enjoy.
You're not alone, so many people are worried about you and seem like they want to help, you have friends on VT that would be more than happy to give you advice and you should never forget that :)
Cicero
January 26th, 2012, 06:17 PM
I'm just really sad at the moment and i'm not sure why. I'll have extremely happy moments for a couple of hours but then its like I burn out. I just have no energy to do anything. I keep crying I literally just burst into tears at regular intervals throughout the day. Three teachers have noticed there's something different about me and asked what's wrong but I don't know what to tell them. My mum is getting worried about me and I don't know what to tell her either. She just wants a normal daughter and I can't help but feel like i'm not good enough.
I don't know I just feel like i'm really alone at the moment, and sad and its making my life really difficult. I'm finding it hard to sleep, and get really emotional and irritable.
I'm scared that all my friends want to leave me and its sort of irrational, but I feel really isolated.
I don't really know what I want just some suggestions on how to snap out of this I just feel really down and its taking its toll. Any help?
In sorry your going through this. Maybe your clinically depressed. I know it sounds weird. But I battled with deppression for a long time, I was very depressed about having no friends, and thinking I'll grow up alone. Your very beautiful and maybe you can focus on the positives about yourself. Write down on a piece of paper all the positives about yourself and put it on your mirror so you can see it.
Try to also think positive about everything. My parents are those people who wake up happy and everything and I always thought that was weird. I've been trying to think more positively about stuff and it's helped.
It's scientifically proven if you take a brisk walk or exercise it can reduce stress and release endorphins which can make you feel happy. Also, doctors say that if you don't eat healthy then it's easier to feel sad. Maybe you need sometime to vent to or tell your feelings to. Or maybe your feeling lonely, maybe if you get a boyfriend (if you don't already) it can really help you. I know a few of my friends were a bit depressed until they got a girlfriend, ev since then they have had more energy and they've had a better outlook on life and themselves! If all else fails talk to a psychiatrist or a counselor. I just started therapy a week ago and let me tell you, it's helped. I didn't notice immediate results but I go 2x a week and after my 3rd time going its helped me. Hope I helped! :D
Carlyle
January 27th, 2012, 12:02 AM
Part of it could be puberty. Everyone will get a lot of mood swings during it, you might not even have any reason to and something will set you off. Its okay, we're all here to talk if you need it.
It could be a variety of things though. You're not alone, you will always have people that care about you :) If you haven't tried it, writing about how you feel can help a fair bit. Its a nice outlet for your emotions and no one has to know. Hope this helped.
Love.Hate
January 27th, 2012, 06:34 PM
You are never alone. Remember that.
You sound like me really, but on a more intense level. there are different levels of depression and I think you may be on the higher end of the spectrum.
You should tell your mum, don't tell her everything if your not comfortable with it. Just let her know your sad and a bit fragile atm. I find writing it all down helps, even if its only a little bit. I normally end up with a page full of words that make no sense. I think you might benefit from anti depressants so you can't get any lower as well.
Also sometimes it's just good to have a cry, don't pretend your okay if your not. Let people in, let them know how your feeling and let them help you.
Louise you will never be alone <3 you know where I am
FullyAlive
January 28th, 2012, 05:05 PM
I don't know, my doctor reckons I have depression its in my notes but I don't think I have a diagnosis.
Thankyou for your replies I'm not sure though I don't sleep properly but even when I do I still feel like this so I don't think it's that, and I find it very hard to find anything positive about myself I really don't like myself so writing down good things would be hard. I might try the writing thing maybe.
I don't know, I don't really want to tell my mum I already feel like such a failure,a disappointment of a daughter. :(
I really don't know what's wrong with me, i've had a really really good evening I was really happy, but now I'm just sitting in floods of tears, I feel so low. I just want to stay here forever and never move. I don't know what I want, I just want to be happy again. I don't want to cry.
Love.Hate
January 28th, 2012, 05:31 PM
I don't know, my doctor reckons I have depression its in my notes but I don't think I have a diagnosis.
Thankyou for your replies I'm not sure though I don't sleep properly but even when I do I still feel like this so I don't think it's that, and I find it very hard to find anything positive about myself I really don't like myself so writing down good things would be hard. I might try the writing thing maybe.
I don't know, I don't really want to tell my mum I already feel like such a failure,a disappointment of a daughter. :(
I really don't know what's wrong with me, i've had a really really good evening I was really happy, but now I'm just sitting in floods of tears, I feel so low. I just want to stay here forever and never move. I don't know what I want, I just want to be happy again. I don't want to cry.
You didnt ask for this sadness, its not your fault. It isnt a weakness. You arent a failure and you havent dissapointed her, she just worries about you.
Louise i totally understand how you feel, there isnt a good way of describing it. It is depression and i know i cannot diagnose you through this, but i honestly believe with all my heart that it is. Happiness will come eventually, okay im not going to lie to you, it could take years and years. But it will be worth it in the end, i promise. Being constantly tired is just part of the illness, no matter how much sleep you always feel emotionally drained.
One day something will make you see the world differently and you'll start trying to pick out the positives and cling on. You dont have to cry if you dont want too, but sometimes it helps. Gets all the negative emotion aout of your body.
:hug:
FullyAlive
January 28th, 2012, 06:10 PM
thankyou Fran :hug:
I feel so whiney I don't really have it all that bad and I feel like i'm making a big deal about nothing. But I feel like no one quite understands me, and I'll say it's ok and they'll brush it off. But it's not ok I just don't quite know how to verbalize it.
I'm so tired and it just takes it all out of me, I'd be quite happy to sleep forever and idk I feel like after a few days people would forget about me. I know they wouldn't but that's how it feels. I feel like a burden and idk unwanted.
Love.Hate
January 29th, 2012, 06:05 AM
thankyou Fran :hug:
I feel so whiney I don't really have it all that bad and I feel like i'm making a big deal about nothing. But I feel like no one quite understands me, and I'll say it's ok and they'll brush it off. But it's not ok I just don't quite know how to verbalize it.
I'm so tired and it just takes it all out of me, I'd be quite happy to sleep forever and idk I feel like after a few days people would forget about me. I know they wouldn't but that's how it feels. I feel like a burden and idk unwanted.
Tell people that, if they ask are you okay say no, but you dont know how to describe it.. i know the easier option is to shrug it off and say that yes you are okay, but that way your bottling it up even more and its ot good for you. Your not whiney, its not your fault you feel like this.
I know that feeling all too well, well what i can say is your not a burden i promise you, people actually want to help you. And you know deep down your not unwanted, i mean think about it.. if you were truely unwanted people wouldnt worry so much about you, they wouldnt bother asking if you were okay
:hug:
Schnope
January 29th, 2012, 11:26 AM
thankyou Fran :hug:
I feel so whiney I don't really have it all that bad and I feel like i'm making a big deal about nothing. But I feel like no one quite understands me, and I'll say it's ok and they'll brush it off. But it's not ok I just don't quite know how to verbalize it.
I'm so tired and it just takes it all out of me, I'd be quite happy to sleep forever and idk I feel like after a few days people would forget about me. I know they wouldn't but that's how it feels. I feel like a burden and idk unwanted.
Hello Louise,
I went through and am actually still going through something like this right now. I still feel that way, that I'm misunderstood, I don't know how you feel, but you probably feel lost and empty. It hurts, I feel that all the time and its hard. However, you should not feel misunderstood, I'm sure there are many people that do understand, and If not, I know what you are going through, we may have different situations, but I understand you. I may not know you on a personal level as of yet, but I feel what you are feeling, it's not easy but I am going through this as well, so don't feel as if you're all alone. :)
I feel like we are going through the exact same thing. I feel like a burden on my friends, and unwanted and not liked. But at the end of the day, its hard and easier said than done, but you need to get past that idea. They are your mates and they will always be there for you. If you don't think that way, how about asking them that you feel like a burden on them.
Finally, whenever you feel down or whenever you feel hopeless, empty, worthless, just remember that there is always SOMEONE looking out for you, whether it be your parents, friends or family. Live in the moment, and enjoy things, it sounds difficult, but look on the brightside.
Message me whenever, I am always here to help.Hang in there Louise!
FullyAlive
January 29th, 2012, 06:00 PM
I need help. These past three days I've just been getting lower and lower. I want to die, I see no point in anything anymore. I just hurt. I'm alone. I feel like I have nothing to live for anymore. I still keep crying, and i'm barely speaking now. I usually talk way too much but I just have nothing to say, I want to talk to people I want them to be with me but I haven't anything to tell them.
Someone just make this all go away I can't take anymore.
Love.Hate
January 30th, 2012, 12:45 PM
I need help. These past three days I've just been getting lower and lower. I want to die, I see no point in anything anymore. I just hurt. I'm alone. I feel like I have nothing to live for anymore. I still keep crying, and i'm barely speaking now. I usually talk way too much but I just have nothing to say, I want to talk to people I want them to be with me but I haven't anything to tell them.
Someone just make this all go away I can't take anymore.
Louise talk to me, i pretty much live on facebook so you know where to find me.
You have reasons to live, your future. Come on, we've been there you know that death isnt going to solve anything, its permanent, hurts everyone and makes life so much worse. You dont know what death actually brings, wouldnt you hate it if it was worse than this sadness?
You need to tell someone how your feeling, just so they can talk to you, show you the good things in life, support you... Im always always here <3
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