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beebs
January 26th, 2012, 11:13 AM
At school i only have 4 friends. But i only hang out with 3 of them, as the other doesnt like the 3 friends i hang with and has her own friends.

And one of the 3 friends i hang with has go REALLY annoyed with me because of something that happend a few days ago.

Im gunna call them friend K, friend P, and friend C.

I have EDNOS, none of them know, and it sounds stupid but i only feel right eating while sat in a certan seat in the hall. We sit in the same places everyday. but a few days ago i went to sit down and friend K was sat in my seat, and i was panicing, i asked her to move a few times, but she and friend P made a massive fuss saying i was being pathetic.

Eventually i got to sit in my seat but they immediatly left, i asked where they were going and friend P said "away from you". I couldnt understand why it was such a big deal. Btw friend C was not in today.

Today we were talking about fish(idk why) and i said "lets drown a fish" as a joke, and this other guy who was there said"thats impossible" and then friend P just started saying how it was, so i said to the guy"see its possible" then friend P says, "you only know that cos i explained it!" like she was angry about it. Then she said "i could drown you, i wish"

Then at lunch, i came and sat down, i didnt want to make them angry by asking friend K to move again so i sat at a diffrent seat, and friend P says, "oh so you dont make a big fuss abouts seats now!" i said, " im not eating today" she said" how does that make a diffrence?" and i just mubbled that it does under my breath.

Then one of the boys who used to bully me came over and said that i had no hair, i said that i obviously did, then friend P said, "your hairs so thin it looks like you've had chemo". I just ignored her. Then that guy asked her why my hair was how it was, she said "your hair goes like that if you dont wash it, dye your hair to much or have chemo" again i ignored it.

The group got up and started leaving and i called friend C back, and asked her why friend C was acting like that. We all started walking somewhere with me and friend C walking a bit behind.

Friend C called to the other two saying, why you walking so fast,
And friend P said" cos she walks so fucking slow" i walk slow, i have a condition that means i cant walk fast and she knows that.

Then i went to go in the lift ( i use my school lift because of the condition) and the others took the stairs, i came out the lift to hear friend C and friend P arguing because friend C asked friend P to stop being bitchy to me. I told friend C to leave it but she wouldent.

I then saw friend P at the end of school and she had a go at me for "telling friend C that she was picking on me" and that it was my fault she was having a go at her.


Can anyone give me advice? Whys she being like this? What can i do to stop it?

P.S IM SORRY ITS SO LONG, AND I DONT REALLY EXPECT MANY OF YOU TO READ IT ALL!

Desuetude
January 26th, 2012, 11:59 AM
Hey i'm sorry your having touble with friends, its horrible because you expect them to always be there for you. It really doesn't matter about the length as long as you get it out and its a real problem like this people are always more than happy to help :)
To me as an outsider reading this it sounds like Friend P isn't really a friend, in all the quotes you put she was just pushing you around and making hurtful comments. Saying that she wishes she could drown you is NOT acceptable even for a bully let alone a friend, I know it may seem like the worst idea in the world but maybe you could tell someone about her, eve if its just anouther friend or a parent if your close to them, just talk about how its making you feel and maybe they could help you out.
The fact that you like a certain seat is fine, i am the same. I don't know what Friend P was making such a big fuss, she was probably just trying to stir things up.
On the other side it seems like you feel trust and are closer to Friend C, she seems a lot nicer and stands up for you. maybe its worth talking to her about it since she was so supportive of you, if you trust her well enough maybe tell her about your ednos, i mean if she's a real friend she'll only want to help you where as friend P doesn't sound like someone you should tell.
Friend K you didn't mention a lot i guess she is just one of those people that is a sheep, a follower that just does everything the 'ring leader' of the group says and in your case im guessing the ring leader seems to be P.
Friend C only told P to stop being bitchy because she cares for you and doesnt want to see you hurt. i know i would probably do the same if it was a close friend. Maybe P is jealous of you and C seeing as you seem very close or maybe she's just a bitch who likes to cause trouble even with her own friends and believe me there are people like that out there. I say just try and stay away from P for a while, try to spend more time with C and talk to her more, even if its not about your disorder if seems like she is a very good friend and you wouldn't want to lose her. I think the only things you can do to stop it is if you actually talk to P, it might not seem like the most appealing idea but if you coudl find out why she is being like this then thats great but i have to say that if it does carry on then please tell someone about it because i know it seems like the best idea to hold it all in and say to yourself that its all right but it will just make everything worse, you'll be hating yourself and her for making you feel that way.
I hope i helped even just a little bit and if you need anything please feel free to PM me. I hope you get everything sorted soon <3

DirtyDog78
January 27th, 2012, 10:31 PM
Ok for one thing, ignore those assholes. That bitch you call a friend doesn't deserve to be your friend. There is someone special inside you but they are so blind they cant see it. Find new friends that you can trust. Im sorry if i called your friend a B*tch.

Desuetude
January 28th, 2012, 07:05 AM
Ok for one thing, ignore those assholes. That bitch you call a friend doesn't deserve to be your friend. There is someone special inside you but they are so blind they cant see it. Find new friends that you can trust. Im sorry if i called your friend a B*tch.

Hey did you even read it all properly? cause if you did then you would know it was only one or two of them that were being 'bitches'. you cannot just say ignore them or go and find new friends because one of the hardest things to do as a teenager is to leave all you friends no matter how badly they treat you it will always be hard. I dont even think its fair to leave them all i mean like i said it was just one or two of them, I think you just need to talk about whats happening and why they are treating you like this.

DirtyDog78 If everytime somone was mean to you, you went to find 'new friends' you would have gone round the whole school in one year, You just have to work on the friends you have.

OzGirlRachael
January 30th, 2012, 02:44 AM
It sounds like friend C is ur only real friend of the bunch. Unless u feel comfortable talking to freind P somewhere totally alone to find out what's wrong?