Question about a girl (how original)

[Mik3]

So this might sound pretty pathetic coming from a high school senior, but, I'm having a bit of a dilemma. Senior prom is coming up in a few weeks, and there is a girl, who I am a casual friend with that I would like to ask. However, I currently have the week off for end of semester exams, and wont see her for a few days. My question is this. Is it an absolutely terrible idea to ask her to prom over facebook? I realize it's not an ideal situation, and I would have asked last week if I had gotten a chance to talk to her alone (assuming I could have found the balls to do it, that is), but I'm afraid that someone else will ask her before I can ask her in person.

Thoughts? Thank you.

[christcenteredlife]

yea, bro. don't do that. use fb to ask her to coffee, then ask her to the prom during coffee.

[Mik3]

Forgot to mention, she's out of the state for the week. :(

[christcenteredlife]

when's prom?

[Mik3]

A little over a month. It's not a question of whether or not I'll have time to ask before prom. More of whether or not I'll have time to ask before someone else does. Girls have been getting asked for a while already.

[Vaulter]

Whats the norm for your school? Mine we always had to find cute and clever ways to ask girls (lets hope your isnt this way, that was a drag sometimes) but i think the best way would be at school when you have the most access to her, just say "hey, can I talk to you alone real quick?" dont say in private, thats weird. Then be like "YO (maybe not yo) I was trying to find the most awkward way to ask you this, but this seemed like a better way than everything I could think of (see, make it funny or something, then BAM), will you go to prom with me?" or better phrasing may be "would you like to come to prom with me?"

If you're unsure if she has a date and you have an ipod touch or iphone, (im sure andriod has it too) download a text messenger app that doesnt use your number and text her and ask her anonymously. its stalkerish, but at least its a sense of security.

[Mik3]

I would say "the norm" is just a straightforward "would you like to go to the prom with me?" Although I'm a pretty shy guy, I think I could manage that. I really just don't know whether or not to ask over facebook. I'd rather ask in person, I know it's pretty lame to ask over FB, I just don't want someone else to ask her (over facebook I guess, as she's out of town for the week) before I get a chance. Like I said, a lot of people have dates already.

Also, I'm fairly certain she doesn't have a date at this point.

I'm probably just way overthinking this, as I often do when I'm nervous/anxious. Unless anyone really thinks otherwise, I'll probably just hope nobody asks her this week, wait until school starts again, man up and ask her in person. Thanks for the input so far.

[Vaulter]

Its SUPER lame to ask over Facebook! I got asked to winter formal over a text twice, and said no to both simply because it was over a text hah! (I was lucky enough to get asked a third time in person thank goodness, or that would have been a lonely night). Can you drive yet or does she live anywhere close to you? If you want since you said shes out of town, maybe send her a message on facebook and see if she wants to meet up RIGHT when she gets back so nobody else has a chance to ask her. Just be like "yo (again, maybe not yo) lets grab lunch when you get home on [insert day here]" then ask her to prom at the end of the lunch. The key is to avoid all awkward silences during lunch, and then again after asking her. If she says yes (Fingers crossed for you!) then immediately start talking, It seems like some people just smile and clam up and then the awkward and silent goodbye. Be dramatic about it, hands clutched to heart with a "oh thank goodness, i was sweating bullets that whole lunch I was so nervous" maybe throw a NOT at the end of that if you're feeling really confident.

More than likely your just overthinking it, ive talked to girls who go both ways about dates to prom. Some have dates that they want to be asked by, and some just want to be asked, but they all say it can be as awkward and hard to say no as it is for the guy to ask. As for nerves, ya, youll be nervous, youll always be nervous when your heart is actually on the line. The only times you wont be is when you don't actually care about the person, and i dont mean that in a mean way, but eventually youll ask complete strangers out, and for me at least thats easier because I'm not already attached to them emotionally.

[unnamed94]

dont even consider asking her over fb. as you may know, that it probably the worst way. if you HAVE to do it now and absolutely cant wait until she comes back, then at least call her. if you are planing on telling when she comes back, vaulter pretty much said it all.

[Moxie]

Don't ask a girl to prom over Facebook. It will come off as impersonal, and she will think that you don't have the courage to do it in person.

Buy her a rose, take her to coffee and ask her face to face. You can even write her a little poem, whatever floats your boat. Good luck.

[botwa]

I think if you explain your situation honestly via facebook you can ask her and then ask her again in person :)
if she's OK she will understand.