girlfriends best friend

[bena3217]

okay so my gf is in another school...her best friend came to mine...we talked for a while and now she told me she likes me...then me and mt GF was in a huge fight and almost broke up! we didnt...but she told her shit about me and told me shit about her...my gf's friend now stil likes me and i dont know what to do...we are together like the whole school day cuz she doesnt know lots of people in my school and i think she is just liking me more by the day! i want to be with her because we are good friends...but i have a GF who i love and will never leave...i dont have feelings for the friend but she follows me around school and everybody thinks we together and they calling her my bitch and stuff....i told her that i love my GF and sometimes i want to be with my other friends but then she gets all sad then i feel bad for making her sad and then she is just with me again...i dont know what to do with her...plz help

[Vaulter]

Please take this with a grain of salt, because I'm just going to say whats on my mind.

By your info on the right, you're 15 and it sounds like you're in high school (I'm going to be working off these guesses for the rest of the post). You probably don't know what love is, you like her, are infatuated with her, but love takes time and consistency. Don't get too hung up on your current GF, because if you are 15, more than likely shes not the girl you're gunna marry, so it doesn't matter. She's just a fun time-filler.

They always say that long distance relationships never work, and it's the truth for all but a select few. In high school when relationships are forged in an hour and ended even quicker, going to a different school might as well be living in a different state. So much is happening during your life every day that changes you, and not experiencing those things with your significant other causes strife, differences, and stupid drama that is only emphasized by the fact that you're in high school.

If it were me (remember, I'm just one person whose not a ton older than you, but as been though some dumb stuff and constantly looks back to evaluate their life) I would break up with your current girlfriend, and then distance yourself from this "friend". The distancing should probably be done whether you break up with your current girlfriend or not, as you said you don't have feelings for her and she sounds like shes causing some major problems in your relationship. The only times you should be hanging out with this "friend" is when your GF is there too, or if she won't leave you alone at school, just make sure you're around a bunch of other friends of yours and you can for the most part ignore her without having to be too rude about it.

Overall it sounds like you're stuck between a Rock and a Man-Stealer, and hopefully something I've said strikes a cord of inspiration, but either way, good luck!

[Quercus]

Put your self in your girlfriends shoes....
And her friends...

[unnamed94]

try distancing yourself from your girlfriends friend to work out things with your gf.

Put your self in your girlfriends shoes....
And her friends...

this is one of the best advices i read here. this works all the time and in every situation (obviously not the same people on every situation)

[botwa]

don't feel guilty. you don't have to support her (I mean the friend of your gf) ALL THE TIME just because she likes you. it could give (and most probably has given) her a wrong clue about your feelings.
if you leave her now she will have to socialize more with other people, you can help her with this by just leaving.
I know that it's her not leaving you alone but try to talk to her and explain. and hang out with your other friends more

[Quercus]

this is one of the best advices i read here. this works all the time and in every situation (obviously not the same people on every situation)

Thanks!
It has always worked for me, and made me understand alot about friends/life




don't feel guilty. you don't have to support her (I mean the friend of your gf) ALL THE TIME just because she likes you. it could give (and most probably has given) her a wrong clue about your feelings.
if you leave her now she will have to socialize more with other people, you can help her with this by just leaving.
I know that it's her not leaving you alone but try to talk to her and explain. and hang out with your other friends more

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