What would you boys do if you gf was a boy?

[PrincessTeen]

Okay so basically I want to be a girl. However I like guys but ONLY STRAIGHT guys. To the boys, what would you do if you just SUDDENLY found out that ur gf was actually a boy. However he looked, sounded, and talked exactly like a girl.

To make it VERY simple:

1. I am a boy.
2. I like straight guys and ONLY straight guys.... Maybe bi's okay?
3. If I do get a boyfriend I won't tell him maybe until ummm... Before sex?
4. He finds out.
5. What will happen?
6. Also would you hit a boy that looks like a girl? Assuming you boys don't hit girls.
7. Please be SUPER SUPER SUPER blunt. I need the bluntness

[unnamed94]

i voted for just break up. when you are talking about beating him up, do you mean because you found out? if that is the case then no, but if i got into a fight (i rarely do) with a guy that looks, sounds and talks like a girl about something else, i wouldnt have any problem with it. he is a guy after all. if you are looking to have a relationship with a guy it would be weird if you didnt tell him until before you are going to have sex.

[Vaulter]

I think the lie would be what gets me. ALL OF THE SUDDEN I found out? I think just because of what society has pounded into me through too much TV and Movies I would freak out (you know, like every cliched situation ever). But just thinking on a relationship like that anybody who lies to me is OUT, especially about something like that. So I would freak out, and just break up.

[kenoloor]

I'm transgender. Were I to actually date someone, there would be no way for them not to know that I was trans before we started dating. Not telling them would be a fundamental denial of an extremely strong element of my identity. Not to mention anybody that I would date would already be pretty fucking queer. But that's just me; it's different for everyone.

Like I said before, if someone is going to leave you for something as trivial as whether you have an innie or an outie, they're not fucking worth your time.

[Texas warrior]

If that happened I would do one of two things

1). put down my beer, because apparently I am totally out of it.

2). break up and try to never see him/her again.

[Buranri]

Like I said before, if someone is going to leave you for something as trivial as whether you have an innie or an outie, they're not fucking worth your time.

If I wanted to be dating someone with a penis, I'd be dating someone with a penis. If I get into a relationship expecting a vagina, then I'd be pretty weirded out if there wasn't one. I wouldn't exactly call that "trivial".

[botwa]

I'm totally confused with your statement that you're straight and like straight boys.
omg
how could it be?
I can't be blunt, I'm stunned

[kenoloor]

If I wanted to be dating someone with a penis, I'd be dating someone with a penis. If I get into a relationship expecting a vagina, then I'd be pretty weirded out if there wasn't one. I wouldn't exactly call that "trivial".

Unless you're looking for a fuck buddy, dating someone for their genitals is rather shallow of you.

I'm totally confused with your statement that you're straight and like straight boys.
omg
how could it be?
I can't be blunt, I'm stunned

Because she's a girl.

[DaylightDusk]

Bro.... Bro....... Just... Just no man. If that ever happens.... Just no man..

[Ambrosia]

I see where your logic comes from, you believe if you date someone long enough that they think they're in love with you they just won't be able to leave you when they find out you're a guy. But the fact is, this logic is so flawed it's impossible to understand how you could deceive someone so much.

You need to find someone who is okay with these types of relationships. Most straight men are not going to be 'okay' with you have male parts, because it completely destroys the point of them being straight. You will not find a straight guy who likes penis.

That's deceitful and wrong. You need to tell them before hand so they have a chance to adjust, or to say they can't do it, so you don't get hurt in the long run.

[Saxophone 44]

If someone told me right before sex, I would punch them in the mouth and call the cops. I'm normally a pretty sensitive guy, but you asked me to be blunt.

[MysticalBurrito]

If I was a guy, who was a complete asshole and didn't have a mind for my own, I'd beat her/him up.
But, if I was a reasonable open minded guy who was in love with you, I'd try to understand before sex. If you're going to get into a relationship with a guy, a straight guy, be open and honest with him from the beginning.
Good luck with your dating. :)

[christianteen]

This reminds me of an Iron Maiden song...

Run to the hills, run for your life!

[PrincessTeen]

Thanks. Anymore opinions? O;

[crustbag]

i would cry lol

[PrincessTeen]

i would cry lol

No spam plz ._. I'm being serious.

[Nihilus]

Seeing as I am straight I would dump them in less than a heartbeat. I may get a little angry and beat the shit out of them.
I respect homosexuals, don't get me wrong. There is just a rational limit that I can and will tolerate, and if it goes over, well its not good.

[kenoloor]

Seeing as I am straight I would dump them in less than a heartbeat. I may get a little angry and beat the shit out of them.
I respect homosexuals, don't get me wrong. There is just a rational limit that I can and will tolerate, and if it goes over, well its not good.

Yeah, because if you don't like something, you should beat someone up. Good logic right there.

[PrincessTeen]

I see where your logic comes from, you believe if you date someone long enough that they think they're in love with you they just won't be able to leave you when they find out you're a guy. But the fact is, this logic is so flawed it's impossible to understand how you could deceive someone so much.

You need to find someone who is okay with these types of relationships. Most straight men are not going to be 'okay' with you have male parts, because it completely destroys the point of them being straight. You will not find a straight guy who likes penis.

That's deceitful and wrong. You need to tell them before hand so they have a chance to adjust, or to say they can't do it, so you don't get hurt in the long run.

Ahaha but what if I want them to think of me as a girl? If I tell them from the start and they do like me then they would think of me differently. If they thought of me as a girl for a very long time hopefully they wouldn't think of me as a boy then.

[Nihilus]

Yeah, because if you don't like something, you should beat someone up. Good logic right there.

I would be very angry that they weren't honest. I would snap if it occurred to me. I am just being honest. I support LGBT, but I can't stand dishonesty. In a situation where you found this out (everything you thought was a lie) I highly doubt anyone would appeal to reason. They would react, which is human nature.

[kenoloor]

I would be very angry that they weren't honest. I would snap if it occurred to me. I am just being honest. I support LGBT, but I can't stand dishonesty. In a situation where you found this out (everything you thought was a lie) I highly doubt anyone would appeal to reason. They would react, which is human nature.

You clearly don't support the T in LGBT if you're going to beat someone up for being transgender. I wasn't questioning your honesty, I was making a commentary on the irrationality/stupidity of your hypothetical reaction.

[Nihilus]

Listen, let's say hypothtically that you were entering into a sexual relationship with someone who you thought to be a woman, and then you found out in reality that they are physically a man, but mentally and emotionally a woman. Any rational thought would fly out of your mind. Look at when a husband finds his wife having an affair or the other way around. They freak and some crazy shit happens. I wouldn't beat the shit out of a transgender, but I would be very angry at the fact that they waited for me to find that out. No one should wait to find that out, they should come clean early on in the relationship about their sexual orientation, as to avoid a potentially dangerous situation.
I would overreact if I found out they were transgender, as would any sane person.

[Say It Aint Tim]

well i fell in love with her so i mean i would have to stay right

[kenoloor]

Listen, let's say hypothtically that you were entering into a sexual relationship with someone who you thought to be a woman, and then you found out in reality that they are physically a man, but mentally and emotionally a woman. Any rational thought would fly out of your mind. Look at when a husband finds his wife having an affair or the other way around. They freak and some crazy shit happens. I wouldn't beat the shit out of a transgender, but I would be very angry at the fact that they waited for me to find that out. No one should wait to find that out, they should come clean early on in the relationship about their sexual orientation, as to avoid a potentially dangerous situation.
I would overreact if I found out they were transgender, as would any sane person.

o·ver·re·act
- verb (used without object)
1. to react too emotionally

e·mo·tion·al
- adjective
1. pertaining to or involving feelings
2. subject to or easily affected by feelings
3. appealing to feelings
4. showing or revealing very strong feelings or mental reactions
5. determined by feeling rather than reason
6. governed by feelings

The very fact that you would "overreact" means you're admitting to being irrational and unreasonable in this situation.

Obviously, being transgender, I am ridiculously biased; but regardless, I do not think that violence is a good solution for stupidity. I agree, I think that one should be up front about their gender identity (being trans is not a fucking sexual orientation, dammit) if a relationship is in the foreseeable future, which is certainly how I would go about it. However, most people are not me. They have reasons for doing so, which is more than I can say for your reaction.

[Scarface]

thats why you take a feel before you turn them lights off boys lol. I HATE dishonesty and bullshit, so if you think you can lie and say you are some shit that you are not, the truth WILL come out eventually. So whether you wait until youre about to have sex or you tell him while hes getting an eye exam, saying a lie is saying a lie. Be honest, be you, no need to chicken out and beat around the bush until you HAVE to tell someone. If they are someone you love, why would you want to hide one of the biggest pieces of your identity to them? lol that would make NO sense. Just saying dude.

[PrincessTeen]

thats why you take a feel before you turn them lights off boys lol. I HATE dishonesty and bullshit, so if you think you can lie and say you are some shit that you are not, the truth WILL come out eventually. So whether you wait until youre about to have sex or you tell him while hes getting an eye exam, saying a lie is saying a lie. Be honest, be you, no need to chicken out and beat around the bush until you HAVE to tell someone. If they are someone you love, why would you want to hide one of the biggest pieces of your identity to them? lol that would make NO sense. Just saying dude.

Well.... I don't plan on having sex after a couple of months. But I want him to think of me as a girl... If I tell him from the start it's either an automatic no or he'll think of me as a boy...So what do you think I should do?

[kenoloor]

Well.... I don't plan on having sex after a couple of months. But I want him to think of me as a girl... If I tell him from the start it's either an automatic no or he'll think of me as a boy...So what do you think I should do?

Find someone who understand what being transgender entails, and who accepts transgender individuals as who they are. Besides, would you really want to date someone who was transphobic in the first place?

[Cicero]

I'm assuming the second to last one (about beating him up he should've told me) is also implying you would break up :eek::confused:

[PrincessTeen]

I'm assuming the second to last one (about beating him up he should've told me) is also implying you would break up :eek::confused:

Noooo I mean some guys would totally hit the person for not telling him. lol....

[CrossingtheCourtyard]

I might be a bit upset that they didn't tell me in the first place, but I wouldn't really care. They would still be the same person, all it would mean is that I know more about them and am glad that they were willing to share that with me.

[PrincessTeen]

I might be a bit upset that they didn't tell me in the first place, but I wouldn't really care. They would still be the same person, all it would mean is that I know more about them and am glad that they were willing to share that with me.

Would you still go out with her though? O;

[UnknownError]

I'd tell them to gtfo. I'm supportive of LGBT people and rights and stuff but I would not be okay with it.

Unless you're looking for a fuck buddy, dating someone for their genitals is rather shallow of you.

No.. just, no. Im sorry to break it too you but if you're straight and thinking you're dating a girl and it turns out to be a boy, you're not going to carry on with it. Maybe one of three thousand people would stay.

[CrossingtheCourtyard]

Would you still go out with her though? O;

Yes I would.

[KidImage]

If I wanted to be dating someone with a penis, I'd be dating someone with a penis. If I get into a relationship expecting a vagina, then I'd be pretty weirded out if there wasn't one. I wouldn't exactly call that "trivial".

I agree completely, it's sorta like buying a dog then seeing its a cat.

[KidImage]

Also you got to includle the fact of having children. I wouldn't want to wait till after I'm marrie I would want them to keep it real. Regardless, I would still break up.

[Short Circuit]

IF the change of sex operation had been done and finished, then it would not bother me, however, if she still had a winky, then I would feel betrayed that she had not told me before then. You can only have a relationship with complete TRUST, and that would be a big breach of trust IMHO

[PrincessTeen]

IF the change of sex operation had been done and finished, then it would not bother me, however, if she still had a winky, then I would feel betrayed that she had not told me before then. You can only have a relationship with complete TRUST, and that would be a big breach of trust IMHO

I don't see how just having a "winky" could change so much. I remember a poll saying that if a girl had AIDS and transfers it to the guy without telling him she has AIDS, he'd get mad but he'd still want to be together. However in this poll, she just has a "winky" and a LOT of guys would just right off the bat break up with her.

[Short Circuit]

I don't see how just having a "winky" could change so much. I

Why? Because I am not gay, bi, or even curious. If I date a girl, I do not expect to find a meat and two veg down there. It would be a complete be trail of trust, thats why it would make it change so much.

[PrincessTeen]

Why? Because I am not gay, bi, or even curious. If I date a girl, I do not expect to find a meat and two veg down there. It would be a complete be trail of trust, thats why it would make it change so much.

Yes, but I don't see why just that will stop you.

[ashdyn]

It would totally depend on whether or not I fell in love in that time. Like if I was completely convinced and fell in love then found out all of a sudden she was a boy, I would be shocked and probably angry. More so because of the lie than anything, but then again idk if I would have fallen in love if I knew beforehand. I think I would try to work it out but he would have to live outwardly as a girl (no one can find out).

I think I'm rare though. If you're transgendered I think the honesty is the best way to go. You might end up in some sticky situations, guys tend to freak out A LOT! But if you really look like a girl like no one can tell, the I bet you'd find a straight guy for yourself :)