Is this true?

[pmm98]

So, while I am on my continuing adventure to truly discover my sexuality I came across a few pieces of information I found note worthy, and wanted to run them by VT :)

So for those who haven't read my previous posts, I'll give you a quick run down. So I'm confused about my sexuality, yadda yadda, but I know I am not gay because there is literally almost no chance that I would date, kiss, marry, live with, have sex with, sleep with, or even HUG a man. It would NOT happen.

However, seeing a naked guy in porn or whatever that will turn me on, like if it's just a guy masturbating i'd get aroused. However, I would date, marry, propose to, kiss, love, snuggle, hug, buy a house with, live with, sleep with a girl as well as do sex. Also, girls in porn get me aroused just as much as any guy.

*Extra piece of information, my dad is bi. but I don't think that has anything to do with my sexuality as I don't believe sexuality is genetic. Also, if it was genetic, my brothers would be bi too and they are both straight.

So, the piece of info. I saw was that people only identify as bi. if they would have a relationship/intimacy with both genders. This is why I am confused, because I get aroused by a guy but I wouldn't do anything with a guy or have a relationship with a guy, as I have no emotional attraction or desire to yet I do with girls. I would do everything with girls.

So I am really confused here and would appreciate some positive input :) Is that arousal by naked guys just due to hormones and being horny in general? Is it bicuriousity? Or is it something deeper than that?

I think I am straight, because in the long run I love girls and only girls and all the goals I have in life (kids, house, family, wife, sex, etc.) are with women and are all straight things. I'm not looking for someone to tell me what I am, I'm just looking for someone to give me perhaps a new perspective on the situation and give me new ways to think about it.

[nick]

Many guys find it arousing to see other guy's penises, especially if they are hard. If you don't have any sexual desire or fantasy over boys or men then it's not reason to assume you are gay or bi, it's just that absolutely anything connected with sex is likely to make you horny.

[senior.2013]

Exactly as Nick said. Its a normal part of puberty and life as a man in general.

[willy93]

here's what i have found on my adventures:

Dr. Betty Dodson (a sexologist) said about circle jerks, "'Perhaps consider yourself 'bisexual in a purely hedonistic sense' ...you don't necessarily want to DATE another man, or MAKE LOVE to another man, but with the right man, it might be fun to get naked and get horny and jerk off together! Try it!"

And the only ever national sex study conducted by Alfred Kinsey in the 50s had him report that 50% of the population is bisexual while 25% are straight and 25% gay.

I don't know if this helps, but I don't think there is a clear answer due to lack of research and discussion because of the "taboo" subject

[hedgemor]

One of the things in puberty is trying to figure out if you are gay, or straight, or bi, and it is not one thing that you can find out by reading or talking, it is by growing up and excepting who you are.

[Cicero]

So, while I am on my continuing adventure to truly discover my sexuality I came across a few pieces of information I found note worthy, and wanted to run them by VT :)

So for those who haven't read my previous posts, I'll give you a quick run down. So I'm confused about my sexuality, yadda yadda, but I know I am not gay because there is literally almost no chance that I would date, kiss, marry, live with, have sex with, sleep with, or even HUG a man. It would NOT happen.

However, seeing a naked guy in porn or whatever that will turn me on, like if it's just a guy masturbating i'd get aroused. However, I would date, marry, propose to, kiss, love, snuggle, hug, buy a house with, live with, sleep with a girl as well as do sex. Also, girls in porn get me aroused just as much as any guy.

*Extra piece of information, my dad is bi. but I don't think that has anything to do with my sexuality as I don't believe sexuality is genetic. Also, if it was genetic, my brothers would be bi too and they are both straight.

So, the piece of info. I saw was that people only identify as bi. if they would have a relationship/intimacy with both genders. This is why I am confused, because I get aroused by a guy but I wouldn't do anything with a guy or have a relationship with a guy, as I have no emotional attraction or desire to yet I do with girls. I would do everything with girls.

So I am really confused here and would appreciate some positive input :) Is that arousal by naked guys just due to hormones and being horny in general? Is it bicuriousity? Or is it something deeper than that?

I think I am straight, because in the long run I love girls and only girls and all the goals I have in life (kids, house, family, wife, sex, etc.) are with women and are all straight things. I'm not looking for someone to tell me what I am, I'm just looking for someone to give me perhaps a new perspective on the situation and give me new ways to think about it.

You straight but curious. If you saw my 20+ questions about this you would feel better. Its porn and anything turns a guy on during this time in life? I feel like I'd do anything to/with a man, but I wouldn't buy a house confide with or anything like that. If you can imagine a future with a guy, your gay, if you can imagine it with a woman, your straight, if you can imagine it with both your bi. It's not that simple though, if you want to do things with a guy and experiment but still imagine a future with a woman, then your straight but curious. Hope I helped!

[Hermes]

I had not read the same thing about the circumstances in which someone may identify as Bi but that does not particularly surprise me.

Bear in mind that sexuality is complex and that labels are meant to help communication and as such are meant to be descriptive not prescriptive, i.e. they are a way of describing yourself not constraining what you can think or do.

You know how you feel and what attractions you feel. If there is a label that fits then good, otherwise as long as you are being honest with yourself then that's the most important thing. If you find the three labels straight/bi/gay too simplistic look up the Kinsey scale and then maybe the work by Fritz Klein.

When it comes to talking to other people it is up to you what you say and what you don't. Someone who finds that discussion with his friends is awkward because they talk about girls and he couldn't care less or keeps getting hints from his parents that he should find a girlfriend when he actually wants a boyfriend may find the work in putting on a mask is too much and things get easier by telling other people how he really feels - by "coming out". People who are towards the straight end of the Kinsey scale and are interested in talking about girls and expect to have a relationship with one probably won't feel this same need to "come out". On the other hand if your mates see another naked guy and say how disgusting it is and you instead think it is sexy then it up to you whether you tell them or not.


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[Evancosta]

Curiosity curiosity curiosity, need I say more?