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beebs
January 23rd, 2012, 02:35 PM
Im pretty sure my mum knows about my cutting now. Loads of things have happend that points to her knowing.
1. Loads of my sharpeners have vanished from my house, i keep them in my blazer pocket and under my bed, and loads have been going missing. Im thinking maybe my mum has taken them.
2. She found a bloody tissue of mine, asked me what it was, I blamed it on a nose bleed. But i doubt she believed it, the stains were obviously from cuts.
3. She found my scalpel thing today, and she asked why I had it, and just the look on her face, it was as if she new i was lying when i said i dont know...
4. I wear a long sleeve top under everything. Even PJ's. And normally when it was in the wash i would not sleep so my mum could definitely not see it. But now she says she'll have it done for when i go to bed, its like shes helping me hide it?
Am i just be paranoid? Or does it sound like she actually knows?
Help?
Im so worried shes found out
FullyAlive
January 23rd, 2012, 02:53 PM
You're probably overreacting, looking at all the people I know when their parents have found out they have done more than mentioned it. It seems unlikely that she'd just leave you to it. However that doesn't mean she doesn't know, she might be scared or confused and not know what to do so is waiting to approach you.
No one can tell you if your mother knows but I think the best thing to do is either wait it out and see if she comes to you or tell her yourself. She might well be understanding, and if she does already know at least that way its less of a shock.
trooneh
January 23rd, 2012, 08:23 PM
Like Louise said, you might be overreacting. Your mother might very well suspect, though, and she might be wanting you to come to her. Perhaps she's in denial, but honestly I do agree the best thing to do is tell her yourself that you're cutting. She should be understanding and willing to try to help.
Magenta
January 24th, 2012, 04:29 PM
If she knew, I have a feeling she would have confronted you by now. However, as mentioned above, she may not even know what she's seeing. Each individual instance could seem strange but she may not add them up or may not want to.
If you think she knows, telling her is probably a better idea. Talk to her now before she does find out and may react in anger if she doesn't understand. No one can explain it better than you can. It's better to catch her now, preferably calmer if she doesn't know, than if she's on edge later.
Hope everything is okay. :)
MysticalBurrito
January 24th, 2012, 04:55 PM
My mom and dad would accidentally find my stuff all the time, it wasn't until three-four years later when my youth pastor confronted them about it that they actually knew. They has no idea the whole time. You're mom is probably the same, clueless, or she *could* be waiting for you to go to her about it.
love is louder
January 26th, 2012, 05:42 PM
ahh the nosebleed excuse! i used to use this several times a week.
i am kind of in the same situation as you to be honest. i have about 10 scars on my wrist that are just starting to go white from 18 months ago and im really happy with them so i kind of.. dont keep my watch on all the time when im in the house now. because to be hones im kind of proud that there starting to fade
Anyways my mam has definately seen these. iv even caught her looknig a few times but she has never mentioned it at all! so i think "what the hell" and we went swimming a few weeks ago at the spa where i had atleast 50 on show ranging from daft ones to pretty risen ones. so im definately sure she knows something. and i dont know why shes not bringing it up. maybe because she just doesnt know how to? maybe because shes worried about how i would react? or maybe shes just that naive that she doesnt actually know what there off. but it makes it awkward for me to judge what im supposed to do. guess its the same for you. my advice is leave it well alone because once you go there you cant take it back! make sure that her knowing, (and you knowing she knows) is the right thing to do. and only you can be the judge of that,
sorry for the essay
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