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screamtobeheard
January 22nd, 2012, 06:49 PM
Do you think it's possible to be in love with someone but not want to be in a relationship with him/her?
shadowhunter320
January 22nd, 2012, 06:54 PM
I do, I'm in that situation now.
Magenta
January 22nd, 2012, 06:55 PM
Yes, I do believe this is possible. For whatever reason, maybe you just love them from afar or there's a reason you can't be with them, the feelings don't just disappear but you may not want to be in a relationship with them. There's someone I really do love as more than a close friend but I will never be with them and I doubt I'd ever want to be. I don't know how to explain it but I do believe this is very much possible.
screamtobeheard
January 22nd, 2012, 07:06 PM
I'm in this situation as well, but I just wanted some other opinions to make sure I'm not some defective freak. Thanks for your opinions.
shadowhunter320
January 22nd, 2012, 07:15 PM
I'm in this situation as well, but I just wanted some other opinions to make sure I'm not some defective freak. Thanks for your opinions.

No prob:-)
Heatbomb21
January 22nd, 2012, 08:05 PM
I just posted a thread about this yesterday...

Yeah. 100% possible.
Jupiter
January 22nd, 2012, 08:06 PM
yeah, my friend is like that now, because he doesn't wanna ruin it.
Jess
January 23rd, 2012, 08:33 PM
yes definitely possible.
Vaulter
January 23rd, 2012, 09:36 PM
Absolutely. You're trained to love people but not have relationships with them (IE, family). Yes I just made that comparison, but its true. I love a girl (I think, I mean I'm 19, who knows if this is what actual love is) and I'm happy when I'm with her, but I know that because of religious and lifestyle differences I wouldn't be happy in a relationship with her (you know when I wasn't actually spending time with her I might resent her a bit). I don't think a "friendzoned" person is exactly what you're talking about, its not that you don't want to ruin what you have, its just that you don't want/feel any need to start a relationship with them. Maybe I'm completely off, I don't know, but I think that you are very much not alone.
Short Circuit
January 24th, 2012, 03:28 PM
Its easy to love someone, but not that easy to be in love with them, so yeah, you can feel like that sometimes
botwa
January 25th, 2012, 07:54 AM
totally yes!
In fact one of the Russian poets described this situation as the highest stage of love when you love a person but don't want to be together and just want him/her to be happy