Ok major delema!

[Frankie66]

Ok, so for starters I am bi. My family was/used to be close until my parents got a divorce. Then we all just kind of drifted I mean I used to be on my moms side of arguments, but know I'm not sure who to believe, anyway..... I was all set and ready to come out to my mom and everything with her bf in the car until he said "if my nephew turns out gay I'm gunna kill him!" and I just shut up. I kinda just felt really awkward. Now I'm not sure if I should tell her because it's the first time in fifteen years she been happy with someone and I don't wanto to ruin that.
In the summer I'm supposed to go live w my cousins in Italy for a month and when I'm there I'm afraid I'm gunna just run away so I don't have to come back to all the bulshit in mylife.... So any advice would be super helpful!

[Smeagol]

Um, for starters you shouldn't run away, especially in a different country. Enjoy the time you have in Italy and if you're close to your cousins you could come out to them... idk. Your mom's bf is definately prejudiced, but a lot of people are. If you find a boy you love and want to be with, come out then. It shouldn't matter, but it seems like it will cause grief if you come out before then. If your mom's bf doesn't accept who you are, there will be a problem but your mom will hopefully choose your side. Hopefully he gets over it so that your mom can stay together with him cuz they're happy together.

[BeyondOne]

First off, like mentioned above, don't run away. That's the last thing you should do. Second, give it time. I know that it's hard for you and it's very selfless to think of your mom being happy over yourself. Try getting her into the room with just you two and talking. I'm sure she will, if she loves you, come up with an alternative to what the guy said. You'll be fine

[Frankie66]

Ok for starters completely worded the first part about running away wrong, what I meant today was staying w my cousins for a year, my bad sorry. And two I would try to get her by herself but either every other day she's gone to be w her bf I watch my sisters, or she's on the phone with somebody do it's almost impossible to even talk to her I was thinking when I'm in Italy I would just tell her then so I didn't have to face her

[kalolin]

First off, like mentioned above, don't run away. That's the last thing you should do. Second, give it time. I know that it's hard for you and it's very selfless to think of your mom being happy over yourself. Try getting her into the room with just you two and talking. I'm sure she will, if she loves you, come up with an alternative to what the guy said. You'll be fine

[Frankie66]

Thx yeah I got over me thinking about running away and everything has been a little better between me and my mom havnt told her but thanks anyway

[ImCoolBeans]

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