They think I'm fragile.....

[Smeagol]

Every boy who's fancied me seems to think that I am so fragile I can't even skin a banana without assistance! There's only been 3 who s tried that.... but seriously? The held doors, tried to carry my backpack, wouldn't let my carry my own sled up a hill and treated me like I needed to be put behind glass in a museum! I said no and elbowed and jostled and tried to get away... one boy seems to think I can't make a snow nest without help and tucked me in with snow when I was curled up relaxing :( I work out, exercise, and I am really strong... :( And I am not popular but still whatever. This is just a rant but if suggestions come forth, they will be appreciatied!

[Short Circuit]

So your complaining about boys being "gentlemen"? Weird.

[kenoloor]

If you really want them to stop treating you like you're incapable, just tell them. Sometimes people are really shitty at picking up cues if you don't just talk to them about it. Communication is a pretty cool thing.

[Smeagol]

So your complaining about boys being "gentlemen"? Weird.

No I am not complaining about gentlemen..... they're not being gentlemenly, they're being... chauvinistic is that the word? I like people who say ladies first and open the door but people who say I can't peel a banana!?! Maybe my first post was unclear, idk...

[Ambrosia]

No I am not complaining about gentlemen..... they're not being gentlemenly, they're being... chauvinistic is that the word? I like people who say ladies first and open the door but people who say I can't peel a banana!?! Maybe my first post was unclear, idk...

Chauvinistic is by far the wrong word to use in this situation. Being a Male Chauvinist means they open the door for you to the kitchen and tell you to get behind the stove and cook them dinner. These boys are simply trying to be kind, and I highly envy you for that. It's hard to find a male in this world who wants to treat a female in that way, and you should really take the time to enjoy it. Either that or you should date some of the guys I know, and find yourself paying for dinner, driving them everywhere, opening the doors for them (or getting them shut in your face) and so on.

There is nothing wrong with what these boys are doing. Of course, if it bothers you so much, you can try to lessen it. Simply carry your own books, and get mean about it. When they try to grab it, raise your voice and say, "NO. I can carry my OWN books." Things like that.

[Smeagol]

I suppose you're right. I just get so confused and I have so many other problems... yeah chauvinistic is the wrong word. I have social issues, I feel inferior, I have a pleasant enough life but I feel empty, painful and depressed. *should be flopping over lifeless but is still breathing* And I always feel useless so even though the're trying to help I guess that's why I want to be able to do some things that I can doo well enough for myself.....

[Magenta]

Just tell them. I do understand how you feel to some extent. Boys being gentlemen is lovely but not to the point where it's giving you this much hassle. I agree that some of it is a bit extreme. Just make sure they know that you can do things yourself. Say you appreciate it but you're okay. As Lexi said, be forceful about it if they're not picking up on it. Some people are just a bit thick and can't seem to read cues too well. Doesn't mean much about them, just that you need to be a little bit more severe with how you handle things.

Good luck.