Help, please.

[Nightmare Child]

Anybody have any advice on how to get over unrequited infatuation? I've had a crush on the same person for a little over a year now and I still feel like I'm wearing a perception filter. I've already decided against taking the risk of saying how I really feel (Cons outweigh pros) so don't try to sell me on that point. I just want to go back to not caring anymore.

P.S. My first post on this wbsite.

[Nightmare Child]

Farkle, I think I posted this in the wrong forum, anyone know how to move it?

[senior.2013]

Someone will move it. As for how to get over it: Find a reason not to like the person anymore. Find something wrong with them that you truly despise.

[Nightmare Child]

I thought of that, but couldn't find out anything bad about him, I know that obviously everybody is flawed, but I don't think I could find out any more about him without it beeing (more) stalker-ish. we only shared one class last year and none this, so he barely knows I exist except for a shortcut formula I proposed to the class last year (math).

Any other ideas out there?

[CarolinaDude]

Is it like a crush that just lasted for a while or something more (deep attraction that you can't seem to get over)? Is this person always on your mind, or at least most of the time in your thoughts? You don't have to answer these questions (because sometimes the answers aren't clear or may have exceptions), but they give you something to think about.

You've probably done this before, but you could try finding someone else to like.? Probably not the best solution, because it might cause the same problem in a different form or exacerbate the current one if you realize the second attraction isn't up to par. Just a thought.

You could try thinking of different things, or getting a hobby, or focusing hard on something that will benefit you (like schoolwork). Whichever you choose, make sure to really concentrate on it. This new thing should figuratively take over your life (within reason).

Lastly, you could try just becoming a closer friend to this person. Maybe some interaction could satisfy what you think you're seeking. It could potentially nullify the attraction by, quite simply, appeasing it.

I'm sorry, truly, but I'm not knowledgeable in these matters at all. Those were just my thoughts on what could work. I had a similar situation (almost exact, in fact), and I found that the third option worked the best. Best of luck!