What do I do?

[jodieheart]

So basically my 11 year old brother (I'm 14 btw) asked me the other day what masturbating was cos his friends at school were making fun of him for not knowing so I told him what it was and said most people end up doing it at one time or another. Then he asked if I did it and I said yes I do and he then asked me to show him how to do it. Eventually I agreed and showed him how he could play with himself and he said it felt really good. Thing is, now he's pestering me to do it again with him and I don't really think that's right and I'd feel like I was taking advantage of him. I mean I did it once to help him out and I'm pleased he looks up to me enough to trust me to help him, but I think it'd be wrong to get in the habit of doing it.
What do you guys think?

[arthur1]

You should tell him its wrong to keep on doing it since you're family - and that the one time was a once off - especially if you yourself dont think its right

[Wings3965]

Just say no

[BaNd]

agree just tell him look the first time i understand but we are brothers and i dont think we should do that

[jodieheart]

Thanks guys, thing is he keeps just asking me whatever I say. I don't really want to tell my parents cos they might not approve of what I did. I guess he just finds it fun doing that sort of thing with a girl, even though we're related, and yeah maybe I should tell him to get a girlfriend to do it with?

[hedgemor]

Maybe not to do it with, but... just tell him that you dont want to and it is not the most acceptable thing for brothers of different ages, like you, to do.

[Magenta]

I do agree that this is wrong to be showing him. I believe it should have stopped after telling him what it was. There's no harm in that if he's a curious kid but I think it crosses a line after that.

Keep explaining to him that this is not exactly acceptable. Tell him that, unless it's not with family, this should be more of a private thing. I have a brother around his age and (thank god we've never had this conversation... ever) I know how stubborn they can be. He'll leave you alone eventually the more you refuse.

[Texas warrior]

tell him that family does not do that together, but be gentle about it.

[Smith98]

Just tell him no and that it's fine to do it with other girls that aren't family. If you don't want to, don't no matter how much he bugs you:)

[ima_dude]

I agree. First of all, don't do it since you're uncomfortable with it. Secondly, tell him that family (especially not of the same gender) don't and shouldn't do it together. You could certainly tell him that if he had a gf it would be appropriate to do with her, provided they were both ready, but make sure he knows that's not the only reason to have a gf, etc. If he wants to do it with others maybe suggest that he could do it with male friends of same age?

[jodieheart]

I am actually a girl. Does that change anything. He is being very stubborn, but I think only cos he doesn't realise why I'm saying no

[Rayquaza]

Don't show him, but It's good to tell him. Make him aware of it but not mention it around other people.

[Short Circuit]

Tell him no, and that it has to stop now!

You should have explained things using objects like a banana or a cucumber, and not "show" him how it was done in the first place. I can soon see him saying "If you dont do it, I will tell mum and dad what you did!"