How to Talk to Him?

[amscramhick]

So I need some advice on how to talk to my boyfriend. Lately he's been really distant and there's this look in his eyes like something is troubling him. And the way he's been acting with me I was thinking it was me like he wants to break up or something. I keep fearing I'm losing him. Now I think it's bigger than that. I want to talk to him about it, find out what's going on, because lately he hasn't been telling me anything. I'm not very good at bringing up things though especially when I fear the outcome. How can I bring it up to him gently? And also, with how distant he's been we haven't hung out in over a month outside of school, so we're never really alone, so I can't just bring it up, I'd have to pull him off to the side which is more scary yet. Does anyone have any advice on how to talk to him? Today marks three months for us, and I just really want to make it work. Because I know if I DON'T talk to him, things will fall apart. But I also feel like if I DO, things will fall apart :/

[ElMonstruo]

Better to talk because if you talking about something like that causes a breakup then your relationship is already on its way out.

[TopTeen02]

when ever you see him, ask to talk to him real quick. Tell him whats bothering you and explain why. This will probably help him realize how much you still want to be in a relationship with him. Just try it, 'Kay? (:

[Watta Tem]

his your bf you can talk to him anytime. Just ask him whats bothering you. And be ready what will happen next..

[amscramhick]

Yeah, I asked him today "so whats been going on with you?" he said there's just a lot going on in his head and he would like to talk about this some other time. More waiting..

[kenoloor]

Yeah, I asked him today "so whats been going on with you?" he said there's just a lot going on in his head and he would like to talk about this some other time. More waiting..

Don't push him. Wait until he's ready; it's good that he's willing to talk about it, and you don't want to ruin that with impatience.

[Quercus]

Give him a big ol kiss and say "im here for you!"

[Spook]

You have to talk sooner or later. You're right-- if you just never talk, your relationship is going to fall apart. It's better to take the risk. As boyfriend and girlfriend, you should be able to talk about things that are troubling one another. If not, like said above- you aren't in a healthy relationship. You pretty much have to do what you have to- pull him aside. Outside in a private area, after school, on the bus in a seat together. Start off by telling him that you care about him and you have noticed something is troubling him. Tell him that you want to know what happened and how you can help. He needs moral support if he's going to be honest- so never judge what he says. I'm sure it will work out fine. :) Good luck! ~Nyra