11 years later

[ackmedsgirl666]

So I'm now seeing my best friend of 11 years
we tried dating in grade 2 but my dad tore us apart
We became reaquainted last semester in school and we hit it off pretty good
Now were dating. We've been dating for 7 days now........... and I'm happy for once now that my ex has backed off. Anyways I wanna try and have sex with him ( I know its too soon but hear me out) we wanna have sex before I move away so we can become closer. We have already been doing alot of for play but were getting bored. I trust him with my life I'm just scared because of my past relationship. Cody pushed me into losing my virginity and having sex when I didn't want it. I know Mikey isn't like that and he said its my choice if I wanna do it...... I'm just a little scared I mean I love sex but I'm just a little scared of it.... how can I overcome my fear and just go for it. What should I think about?

[CoolGuyXD]

First off let me say Im sorry about your ex. I would say take it slow with Mikey for now. It has only been a week and all. A relationship is more then just sexual things. If you really want to have sex with him you have to feel the true love and passion between you too. That is what makes a couple strong and loving. I say just take it slow. Hope this helps :)

[ackmedsgirl666]

Hey thanks for your feedback
I feel very deeply about him and have for some time and I'm wondering if the sex might bring us closer
The only reason why I'm scared of having sex is because everytime I get sexual with Mikey I picture codys face and then I back off...... I can't say I haven't gotten over Cody because I haven't I just want things to work out for me and Mikey :-) :-)

[unnamed94]

although sex is an intimate thing you share with someone, it seems you are not ready. think about it to not rush into it like with your ex. most people would just go for it, but you may have to go through the same thing that happened with your ex another time. you moving away just makes it more complicated. talk to him about it. hope this helps.

[ackmedsgirl666]

we talked and i said im willing to try
i trust this guy with my life over anybody else.

[Clawhammer]

we talked and i said im willing to try
i trust this guy with my life over anybody else.

I will say this much, people are not the same people within a relationship as they were when you were just friends. People change, and I think you're rushing into this. You don't sound certain, and honestly, seven days isn't much time to decide in. Take my advice, go slowly. Sex can help a relationship or it can break it, and I think you're leaning towards going WAY too fast. All the same, the decision is yours. I just think that you shouldn't go rushing into anything just yet.

[ackmedsgirl666]

alright :)

[DaylightDusk]

If you love him, then you shouldn't have to have sex with him. I mean yeah its a great way to show your feelings for somebody but don't ever plan it out. Do it out of pure excitment and spontaniousness! But if you feel like it's time then go for it! :D:D

[ackmedsgirl666]

so i went with my instinct and i had sex with him last night
i felt different but the second he was inside me and the second after we were done i felt more of a closeness to him.... like we were bonded closer together.... why did this happen. is it because i trusted him or what?????
can anybody answer this or tell me if they have had a similar experience ??