Am i too big hearted?

[Dimentio]

Well these people act like my friends in my face and stuff yet when i am not with them, They laugh at me from being a video game charecter to my mums abortion saying i should of been it.
But no matter what i struggle to be mad at people and if they say they are ill or stuck on a question in school i help them and be nice and friendly, So am i too big hearted? If so is their a way to become a bit more tough because i do not want to be a push over to my 'Friends'.

[Johnt123]

Don't worry abt people that say stuff like that find real true friends

[Azunite]

You are just like me

Hell I actually felt actual daggers when my best friends betrayed me, but I still talk to them

[Dimentio]

Oh i am sorry to hear that man! But me and you we are the better people even if we are push overs! :) I have had so many friends betray me and stuff, I lost a lot on the internet and two of my only 3 real life friends due to me untrusting them.

[Azunite]

Oh i am sorry to hear that man! But me and you we are the better people even if we are push overs! :) I have had so many friends betray me and stuff, I lost a lot on the internet and two of my only 3 real life friends due to me untrusting them.

There is this strange law:

If you trust them you are naive
If you don't, you are paranoid...

[Carlyle]

You really just need to find better friends, or tell the ones you have that if they have an issue they need to say it to your face. They need to accept you for who you are, even if you're a big gamer nerd.

[Dimentio]

I DEFFINITLY am not a big gamer nerd ha ha, Gaming is not my thing i am poo poo at it! One of them is not scared to say stuff to my face but the others, Meh, Also to PrinceOfMadness (Love the name by the way! :D) That is a strange rule!
Yeah like isaid i call them friends when they are not, But like they do not laugh at things i have said they laugh at me and the horrible things i apparently look like or sound like and stuff, But i will be gone from them soon as there is only a few months left of school! :D

[Carlyle]

The fact that they laugh about you behind your back at all is rude. Sure, if something is funny that you did or say and even you laugh at it, it might be more acceptable. But in this situation, its being a bad friend.

[CarolinaDude]

I DEFFINITLY am not a big gamer nerd ha ha, Gaming is not my thing i am poo poo at it! One of them is not scared to say stuff to my face but the others, Meh, Also to PrinceOfMadness (Love the name by the way! :D) That is a strange rule!
Yeah like isaid i call them friends when they are not, But like they do not laugh at things i have said they laugh at me and the horrible things i apparently look like or sound like and stuff, But i will be gone from them soon as there is only a few months left of school! :D

Some people might say they're bad friends, but I firmly believe they are not friends at all. Honestly, they just aren't. Furthermore, if you're helping them out, then they don't even deserve to be your friend.

No, you're not too bighearted. Not at all. They're just coldhearted and ungrateful.

It's nice that you're looking at things in a positive light (I think?.. judging by your green smiley). Keep doing what you're doing and don't let human decency become overruled by the impudence of others.

[Dimentio]

Thank you :) I just got off one detention and a few other people have been saying stuff all for my "Manners, Respectfulness and helpfulness" My mumma just bought me up good and still does :)
Thank you for what you said though, I do hope people like us will one day become more of then the bad, Same for us good teenagers over the bad ones which scare me ha ha.

[oneDay]

You may or may not be bighearted by definition but you are too nice to these "friends." And that's how they take advantage of you, by talking behind your back, but you can draw the line. You neither have to turn on them nor attempt to become closer to them - you've had enough of them. End your relationship with every single person you know, feel, and believe you cannot trust.
This may not be the most appropriate thing for you to do, but it would be for me.
You deserve good friends, real ones; people who support you and are loyal to you. Whether you're bighearted or not, you should surround yourself with people who are true to themselves and true to everyone they know.

[tomh274]

Don't worry about it :)

They are in the wrong not you, I'm amazed you don't get mad at them but I guess that shows you have a good and kind personality which to be honest is quite rare.

[shadowhunter320]

I'd say stand up for yourself, if you let people do this it will only continue to get worse. People will use you, and from many family experiences you won't get very far in life being stepped on. Don't be an ass, just talk to them and say its not ok. If they continue, cut contact with them. They're not worth your time, don't bother with them and find some real friends.

[Dimentio]

Thank you tomh274 :D
Also to you and the others, I have tried breaking contact but cannot do it as if they get ill or get stuck on somethig i HAVE to help them! Or if they talk to me i just talk back nice, I can't help it ha ha, It's just like born in me ha ha.
Same for my lack of swearing, Having to say please, Thank you and opening doors for people, I guess just being a push Over/Big Hearted was born in me and it is hard to change ha ha :)

[oneDay]

I have tried breaking contact but cannot do it as if they get ill or get stuck on somethig i HAVE to help them! Or if they talk to me i just talk back nice, I can't help it ha ha, It's just like born in me ha ha.
Same for my lack of swearing, Having to say please, Thank you and opening doors for people, I guess just being a push Over/Big Hearted was born in me and it is hard to change ha ha :)

Well I guess that's just your disposition and there's nothing you need to do about that. You don't have to change for these "friends", you break away. Be yourself but never let your guard down, again, just do what's best for you.

[Stryker125]

You've got a good heart dude, and that's awesome. But you need to find better friends. Real friends wouldn't treat you like that.

[KarkatLuv]

they are not true friends, quite frankly their actions disgust me, you have a big heart, but the more you act friendly the more likely you will snap (says the person with friends that hurt him and snapped and was pissed at everyone about 3 times in 2011) :hug: