A little confused

[RLuna]

Okay so heres the scenario, Im 17 years old. I recently decided to stop lying to myself and told my mom and closest friend I was bi. I liked the idea of being bi, due to being accepted just a little more. But the problem is that im not sure if I can see myself living with a woman and having kids. I do want kids but im just not sure if I would want them with a woman. When I picture myself with a guy, I imagine us talking every night, cuddling on the couch, or just looking at the stars at night and talking about anything and everything. but I dont know if i could do that with a girl. The last girl I dated was a long time ago and I am currently bestfriend-less due to an argument. I dont talk to anyone much anymore so Im assuming I just over thought alot. But do you think I may be gay instead of bi? I do find girls attractive though. So yeah im a little lost :P .

[person842]

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[KodieBear]

same. exact. situation. >.>

[Tonebone88]

Emotion attraction plays a part so you may be gay. Hard to tell right now.

[KarkatLuv]

being bi makes life more fun, double the chances of finding someone you like, im the same as you, but if you find the right girl then you would have the same feelings for them as you do towards guys.

[CoolStoryBro 15]

I am going to have to go with that you are gay. I mean you say that you find girls attractive but yet you are imagining you're future life with a man instead of a woman. And if you haven't gone out with a girl in a while and you aren't even close friends with them anymore then that just means you are not trying to be with girls. And for the people that say that being bi gives you more of a chance to find the person you're supposed to be with, you're wrong. I mean i am straight but that doesn't mean i have less of a chance to find "the one." It just means i am more focused on finding a girl. So for you i would focus on guys because that is what you want wether you fully are aware of it or not

[Frankie66]

Same situation

[RLuna]

Thanks everyone :]

[ccrunner]

it is a possibility you are bi or gay or just even curious you are a teenager you emotions are crazy im straight but for some reason my hormones make me like gay porn so just stay positive and sooner or later you will find yourself and live hapily ever afte

[caden048]

i believe you are bi but you can picture yourself with a man instead of a women

[georgiamay]

:arrow: Teen Sexuality, because I think you'll get some more helpful answers there.

[Teensensation32]

Your bi ...and you lean towards guys I think :)

[ashdyn]

I find that I hate having to label myself for society. I would love to say that I have no sexual orientation. For me...the situation is reversed. I like messing around with guys and find some attractive but I can't see any future there. Most people would say that I'm bi others straight/curious. I just don't like having to define who I am with a few select words. Maybe I'm just being immature though...

[mfupi2]

What do you masturbate to?

[ExhibitG]

this is actually very interesting. it seems to me like while most on here including myself have a sexual attraction to guys and an emotional attraction girls, your situation is the opposite. you have a real emotional connection with other guys and more sexual attraction to girls (if i'm correct in that assumption). you should probably just label yourself as bi for now. you'll find out eventually.

better yet, don't even use labels at all. you are who you are.

[Diverperry]

i would say that you should let the hormones settle before you make any permanent views of your sexuality

[monkeydo]

I find that I hate having to label myself for society. I would love to say that I have no sexual orientation. For me...the situation is reversed. I like messing around with guys and find some attractive but I can't see any future there. Most people would say that I'm bi others straight/curious. I just don't like having to define who I am with a few select words. Maybe I'm just being immature though...

I agree TOTALLY and I don't see the need to have a label at all. I only say I'm "gay" because I'm mainly attracted to guys so thats what people expect me to say, but honestly if I met a girl I actually got on with I would probably be happy with her (its just never happened). I prefer to think that we're just "sexual" and sometimes we want different things depending on our mood or whatever. Society wants us to fit into neat little groups making us think we HAVE to choose one and stick to it for the rest of our lives, and I disagree. So in my opinion, just go with the flow and you don't need to pick one because maybe there isn't a correct answer?

[christianteen]

You're bi but you like guys more. That''s normal.

[Rayquaza]

For now you can't really know. But I honestly think it sounds like you're gay since you don't really see yourself that close to a woman.

[prodigy1996]

Here are my thoughts. First of all, congrats on coming out! :) secondly, I agree, you really can't make this huge life decision just on what you see in the future. I think that I agree in saying that you should just live your life and see where it takes you! :)

[muddygrand]

Could be that you are just slightly more attracted to guys then girls. Not entirely abnormal. I would just go with whoever you find that makes you happy!

[Morgoth42]

You're Bi but you prefer guys, it happens. I am the same way, I like girls but I do prefer guys.

[marc_not_mark]

It is definitely possible you are gay and not bi. people always say those things become clearer the older you get. by the time you're old enough to have or want kids you'll probably know exactly what you want

[Jmann]

I think you are bi, you just lean more to guys

[ralphcarmineleo]

at this age we're all just pretty curious

[VirtualGuy012]

i think you are leaning a little more toward gay

[Hunter1]

You seem really confused. You'll probably find out what you really are later, but if someone loves you, they shouldn't care. Make it easier and don't label yourself

[MrIan]

i believe you are bi but you can picture yourself with a man instead of a women

Yeah that might help

[Throwaway24]

I would say u r bi but mainly attracted to guys just like me.