I feel sad all the time and its driving me nuts

[Stronger]

(Sorry If in the wrong section)

All the time I feel, "down" or sad and I dont know why? I have like awkward social problems which are driving me nuts, I just can't make friends, when I try talking to kids my own age I just can't, nothing will come out and its really awkward. (Some examples) A while back on black friday, I saw this old friend who I hadn't seen in ages and I say hi or whatever but what I didn't realize is that I guess he wanted to shake my hand and I didnt see it, and my sister pointed it out and after that I felt like shit and its been bothering me ever since. Another time, I go to my sister friend's house and she has a son who is 14 and we are playing xbox but we aren't talking and he leaves the room and I hear his mom telling him, why arent you talking to him blah blah, an I just couldn't talk to him. The next day my mom got mad at me saying oh you cant even talk to a 14 y/o, etc and I felt like shit.


If people talk to me first im fine, but I just can't talk to people first, just doesn't work. This whole thing makes me feel sad that I just can't make friends and about a year ago my close friends were adult >__< (sad I know).

I guess thats it, I had to get this out there, I've been holding it in too long. Try not to laugh at how dumb I sound. :rolleyes:

[northskater110]

The only way of getting over this man to be assertive. I know it sounds difficult but it honestly is the only way about it. You can't just wait for people to come up to you and talk to you, you need to go out and do it.

I would suggest that you go up to people you already kind of know, and just talk to them. About anything really. Could be about sports, tv, music, etc. This is to get your confidence up. You need to be confident about who you are and about talking to others. Once your begin to gain confidence, everything will be easy and you will be fine.
LMK if there is anything more I can do!

[Stronger]

The only way of getting over this man to be assertive. I know it sounds difficult but it honestly is the only way about it. You can't just wait for people to come up to you and talk to you, you need to go out and do it.

I would suggest that you go up to people you already kind of know, and just talk to them. About anything really. Could be about sports, tv, music, etc. This is to get your confidence up. You need to be confident about who you are and about talking to others. Once your begin to gain confidence, everything will be easy and you will be fine.
LMK if there is anything more I can do!

Alright, thanks

[Stronger]

Ughh I feel like I'm looking in a mirror. I really wish I could help you but I'm kinda in the same situation... though I'll try to attempt.

The handshake thing is normal, you just didn't see his hand. It's ormal to feel shit about it but he probably doesn't even remember. As for the xbox situation, talk about the game your playing maybe... strategies to win, asking him his high score etc... just remember that not every moment needs to be filled with constant talking.

I really wish that I could help you more but like I said I have the same problems as you.

Lol, the xbox was a one time thing, we kinda talked after but idk but its fine, thanks

[trooneh]

(Sorry If in the wrong section)

All the time I feel, "down" or sad and I dont know why? I have like awkward social problems which are driving me nuts, I just can't make friends, when I try talking to kids my own age I just can't, nothing will come out and its really awkward. (Some examples) A while back on black friday, I saw this old friend who I hadn't seen in ages and I say hi or whatever but what I didn't realize is that I guess he wanted to shake my hand and I didnt see it, and my sister pointed it out and after that I felt like shit and its been bothering me ever since. Another time, I go to my sister friend's house and she has a son who is 14 and we are playing xbox but we aren't talking and he leaves the room and I hear his mom telling him, why arent you talking to him blah blah, an I just couldn't talk to him. The next day my mom got mad at me saying oh you cant even talk to a 14 y/o, etc and I felt like shit.


If people talk to me first im fine, but I just can't talk to people first, just doesn't work. This whole thing makes me feel sad that I just can't make friends and about a year ago my close friends were adult >__< (sad I know).

I guess thats it, I had to get this out there, I've been holding it in too long. Try not to laugh at how dumb I sound. :rolleyes:

Brandon, you didn't notice his attempt to shake your hand. If you had, then you would have shaken it, but you didn't. You don't need to blame yourself over that.

For the 14 year old, you're unable to start a conversation. A lot of people aren't. Maybe he's the same way, and you guys just didn't realize it and neither of you started the conversation.

You're not sounding dumb, at all. You just need to have more self-esteem. I for one enjoy talking to you, and you have a lot of great things to contribute to the conversations in the chat room. Have you tried any social groups with people that share interests? That might be a good way to start.

[jimmyboy92]

I'm the same tbh. I can never start conversations, not even over internet on Facebook chat, I have to wait for the other person to say something first. I guessed its just cos I'm boring and have nothing to talk about but maybe its part of the social anxiety.

[Stronger]

Brandon, you didn't notice his attempt to shake your hand. If you had, then you would have shaken it, but you didn't. You don't need to blame yourself over that.

For the 14 year old, you're unable to start a conversation. A lot of people aren't. Maybe he's the same way, and you guys just didn't realize it and neither of you started the conversation.

You're not sounding dumb, at all. You just need to have more self-esteem. I for one enjoy talking to you, and you have a lot of great things to contribute to the conversations in the chat room. Have you tried any social groups with people that share interests? That might be a good way to start.

Thanks Seany, but I have hardly any interests at all

[trooneh]

Thanks Seany, but I have hardly any interests at all

Cruises for example. The Yankees (blech). Music.

[Stronger]

Cruises for example. The Yankees (blech). Music.

Thats true, and you just love to dis the yankees all the time :P