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chris4827
January 14th, 2012, 10:58 PM
Okay so I’m not really sure if this is the right place to post this but this the friendship section so I’ll give it a shot.
So it’s my second year of high school and I’m finding that I’m drifting farther and farther away from a girl that we’ll call Jane. So I and Jane before high school weren’t great friends but still, we knew each other from elementary. Anyways in high school we kind of banded together since we were the only two people that we knew in the beginning of our freshman year. So half way through 9th grade and we’ve been accepted into a group of friends and things are going great. Now fast forward to 10th grade that group of friends has disbanded and I barely talk to her now :( and this year seems different, I don’t know if I distanced myself from her but I can’t seem to talk as easily with her when she’s with others. When we are alone I can make conversation but when were in a group I don’t even open my mouth. And anybody who know me will tell you that that an amazing feat. I guess where I’m going with this is why can’t I seem to talk to her anymore? It’s as if I don’t know where to start, I think the problem is that I barely knew her personally from the start. But how can I start to know her when it’s already 10th grade and i've “known” her since elementary? Is it that maybe we weren’t meant to have a friendship from the start? Because that saddens me a lot, we are after all the only two students from our old school :(

northskater110
January 14th, 2012, 11:04 PM
highschool kind of does things like this to friends all the time. Don't think for a second that it means that you weren't meant to have a friendship from the start. There is no deadline in becoming close to somebody. One of my current best friends attended the same middle school as me, and highschool. Up until my junior year, we had been in different groups friends until we were assigned to do a project together. We bonded over it and hang out all the time.
What I'm trying to say is dont you dare second guess yourself. You will be just fine man, I can sense it. Begin to know her personally, invite her top do things with you as friends and talk. go try to sit with her at lunch, and just talk. you can't force someone to know you very personally when you are only really starting to begin a relationship. give it time, and keep working at it, keep your chin up, and just talk about anything relevant. (sports, music, ect.) good luck!

chris4827
January 15th, 2012, 03:22 PM
highschool kind of does things like this to friends all the time. Don't think for a second that it means that you weren't meant to have a friendship from the start. There is no deadline in becoming close to somebody. One of my current best friends attended the same middle school as me, and highschool. Up until my junior year, we had been in different groups friends until we were assigned to do a project together. We bonded over it and hang out all the time.
What I'm trying to say is dont you dare second guess yourself. You will be just fine man, I can sense it. Begin to know her personally, invite her top do things with you as friends and talk. go try to sit with her at lunch, and just talk. you can't force someone to know you very personally when you are only really starting to begin a relationship. give it time, and keep working at it, keep your chin up, and just talk about anything relevant. (sports, music, ect.) good luck!

thanks i just needed some reassurance :)