My dad is an asshole that makes me want to cut myself

[HeroesAndCons]

It all started this morning, i usually like to sleep in on weekends cause i work my fucking ass off at school. Well anyway my dad had to go to the bathroom and the bathroom was occupied so he used the one upstairs. Thats where my room is. He flips cause my room was a little cluttery... big whoop i am a fucking teenager it happens. so he fucking blows up and yells at me my mom and my sister that we dont respect him and he wants his meals on time and he wants everything done his way, which pisses me off cause my mom does alot for this house and my dad complains. so he yells and whines for an hour to this point i am already crying and not breathing at all, so my mom checks my room and she seen nothing wrong just an avrage teenage room. I was crying and almost cut in front of her. i felt so bad. i am so fucked up
Then by the time i was done he said it was still messy.... what the fuck... i worked my ass off cleaning this goddamn room for you and you are gonna tell me that it dosent please you. so i kinda lost it and had a temper tantrum in my room. so i clean it again. And he approves it.
Then i come to him maturely and try to handle the situation. and i said "some things you do... really has an affect on my mental health. You scare me and depress me. You need to stop cause it is unhealthy for me..." and what he said to me is "Good i should, and i should do it more often."

What the fuck dad..
you are a fucking looser of a dad.
Go die in a burning fire.

[Consumemysoul]

:\ Talk to your mom about it, if he acts like this towards her then she will understand how you're feeling.

[ben...]

My dad is a asshole also. He cheated on my mom multiple times and has never really been a part of my life. And when he is, he contradicts every little thing I do. Never good enough for him. One day he will realize how wrong he was, but hopefully I will be moved out and have a successful life and family. I always just look forward to the future.

[georgiamay]

Okay, calm down.

First thing's first: Go die in a burning fire.

^^ Never, ever, say things like that. One day it might actually happen, I highly doubt you'd be happy about it.

Anyways...

If you've had mental health problems before this incident, I doubt it's the cause of them. Yeah, maybe it triggered an urge today, but lots of things can trigger urges. I once self harmed because I couldn't find my chemistry book. Well, no, but that's what triggered it.

Look, parents have a go at their kids about them having messy rooms all the time, I don't know anyone who hasn't had this happen to them, it's just a part of family life. Parents get stressed, and they take it out on their kids, it happens. Yes you are a teenager, and teenagers do have messy rooms, but if you think about the stereotype properly, the parents are always having a go at them about it as well. This really isn't anything new.

I understand that it triggered you to feel like shit and made you want to cut, but your dad is just doing what most dads do. You just need to try and calm yourself down and remind yourself that this isn't something that only you have had to experience, because it's just a fact of life. And when you feel like you can't stand it anymore, just think that you won't have to live at home forever. That's what people have been doing for years.

[Amaryllis]

It's very difficult when you have parents who take out their frustration on you, especially when they're the very ones who are meant to support you and help you through the pain. Some people are just real control freaks - it doesn't necessarily mean he wants you to suffer, even if he did say so. He might have just said it in a heat of anger.

The thing is, sweetheart, you can't change your parents. I know you may want to at times - but you can't. But there are things you -can- change. Like how you react to things. Next time if something like this happens, keep cool, acknowledge your feelings and let them slip away.

Cutting is only a temporary release and it's a very bad one as well. Try dancing, drawing, punching a pillow or watching/reading something funny instead.

Your dad is very hard on you but you don't have to let him ruin your life. You're 17, soon you'll be able to be independent and live on your own. For now, just do everything you can to be happy.