Deciding in Puberty

[JeffCollins]

Is it right to choose your sexuality during your puberty age?
For me, it's not, coz you'll act just like it when you have already decided.. Tell me your side :)

[Can'tHelpIt]

I think you're supposed to b/c puberty is when you're findding out who you are

[JeffCollins]

Yeah, but for me it's just wrong.. Your hormones are raging.. I dont know! Haha.. Well, our brains are just complicated, isn't it? :P

[Abyssal Echo]

I think you're supposed to b/c puberty is when you're findding out who you are

I agree its a time of growing, changing, and figuring out who and what ur about.

as for me I'm gay and out

[BeyondOne]

You don't "choose" you're sexuality. You find out.
This is how I look at it.
Would I choose to like guys, get bullied, ridiculed, not accepted socially by millions of people? I don't think so :p

But puberty is, in my opinion, where you find out who you are.
Not to quote Lady Gaga, but you were born this way ;) lol

[Jefflikespie]

You don't "choose" you're sexuality. You find out.
This is how I look at it.
Would I choose to like guys, get bullied, ridiculed, not accepted socially by millions of people? I don't think so :p

But puberty is, in my opinion, where you find out who you are.
Not to quote Lady Gaga, but you were born this way ;) lol

I wholeheartedly agree. I can't even understand how one would go about "choosing" one's sexuality.

[jimmyboy92]

Is it right to choose your sexuality during your puberty age?
For me, it's not, coz you'll act just like it when you have already decided.. Tell me your side :)

I actually agree although I don't think its worded quite right! During puberty you may be attracted to pretty much everything but that wouldn't necessarily mean you're bi imo. I'll be honest, I'm 19 and I still don't really know for sure.......so I don't get how 13 or 14 year olds seem so sure they're gay at that age.

However as the others said, its not something you can chose! I would guess several gay guys wouldnt have chosen to be like that. Not that there's anything wrong with being gay imo. :)

[senior.2013]

As people said. You dont choose who you are. You find out during puberty. Your hormones are raging which make you curious, but either way you find out.
You didnt choose your hair color when you were born, it was given to you. You dont choose how tall you are, you find out over time. Same as sexuality in puberty.

[ben...]

I agree, you don't "choose" you just discover. I decided during puberty that I was bi, only because that's when I learned what sex and masturbation is. I also discovered what a real relationship was during puberty.

[pmm98]

I don't completely agree with people who say sexuality isn't a choice. I don't believe that anything about a human being is predetermined, other than what is give to us genetically by our parents. I believe the attraction is not a choice, but how you react to your attraction is what defines sexuality. To be straight, you have to be physically and emotionally attracted to ONLY girls. That's unlikely for 90% of the world, whether they admit it or not. Think of it this way: If your gay, you have to be with men and have sex with men. You clearly are going to choose whether your going to do this or not? That's just my opinion, whether other people agree is irrelevant to me.

More to the point, your ATTRACTION becomes more defined is during puberty. It's up to you to decide how you want to react to your attraction. Most people are attracted to both men and women, and than they choose to be with women (reacting to their attraction to girls and defining as straight) or men (reacting to their attraction to men and defining as gay) or both (defining as bisexual). During puberty, hormones are raging so it's normal to have attraction to members of the same sex, which is widely known as bicuriousity. Which means you have an emotional and physical attraction to the opposite sex, but physical attraction the same sex. Obviously you aren't going to be bicurious for the duration of your life, and your attraction will become more defined as you move on into your 20's in which case, you can react and are straight, gay, or bi. That's my take on it.

I may get turned on by a naked guy, but I wouldn't ever touch, date, propose to, marry, sleep or live with one as my partner but I would with women. Therefore, I am straight. Ask yourself those same questions, and your sexual preference should become fairly clear.

[caden048]

You don't necessarily find out in puberty. You could find out sooner or maybe later than puberty. for me it was sooner.... And yes i do believe that people are born this way...

[Tonebone88]

As everyone has said, it is impossible to choose your sexuality. But I understand what you're trying to say. Many people that turn out to be straight do gay sexual acts during puberty because their hormones are raging and they want to see how they compare to other boys. You ca t know your sexuality for sure until you're done with puberty.

[Rayquaza]

Yes, during puberty is finding out who you are. But then again puberty can be a bad time too since its an open chance to experiment, so after puberty could be a good time since youve done all the experimenting etc and you know what feels right.

[randomme]

its ok but you may change as most people are more curious during puberty

[spencer_S]

you don't decide; you either like dick or you don't; you either like pussy or you don't.