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TheHumanSpirit
January 14th, 2012, 01:59 AM
Today I was talking to one of my best friend's boyfriends, just chilling at snack or whatever. That best friend, "Janice," didn't even come over to talk to either of us or even wave, which I thought was weird (considering I had class with her next anyways, and her boyfriend was trying to get her to come over).

I caught up with her, "Joe" (another best friend), and one of our mutual friends. I was like "way to ditch your boyfriend!" or something sarcastic like that, since she was smiling when she saw the two of us standing there trying to get her to come over. She ignored me, though. I asked what was up, and Joe said, "maybe she just doesn't want to talk to you."

When I went to class, I asked Joe (who sits next to me) why she wouldn't want to talk to me. He told me it wasn't his place to tell me and that I should ask her. This is weird because we have the same exact friendship with her, so I don't see why she would tell him and not me (but then again, they were talking behind my back on Monday in one of their classes, which a mutual best friend brought to my attention). I asked her after class if she was mad at me, but she just said she was sick (which she has been, but she also said she wasn't frustrated with me when I called her on Monday; she's the type of person who won't say if she's mad at you).

I told Joe she said she was just sick, and he told me, "if that's what she told you, then just drop it," and asked "why do you keep coming to me?"

I'm just trying to figure out what's going on. I'm not a paranoid person, but Joe made it seem like she definitely had a problem with me that she doesn't want to talk to me about for some reason. How should I deal with this? I don't want to seem annoying by asking "what's wrong" 24/7, but obviously there's something wrong. What do you think?
MalditoDia
January 14th, 2012, 02:06 AM
Idk honestly no offense but she seems like a flake a joe seems qnnoying. like if your all best friends then he shouldnt be askin y are you coming to him. You should ask her boyfriend if everythings okay and if he acts flakey than you should just keep on keepin on and someone will tell you eventually.
TheHumanSpirit
January 14th, 2012, 02:15 AM
Yeah, I agree with you, but I'm still not exactly sure how I should deal with this.. I mean, it does need to be handled if it has anything to do with me. It's kind of interesting that Joe was in this same situation with Janice earlier this year, but I actually told him to talk to her about it and I told her the same thing, and after they talked they worked it out.

Idk. It's really tough right now because I can't talk to our one other mutual best friend, Zoe, because she's sick of hearing about us all getting into "fights" or whatever. So, it just feels like I'm losing every single one of my best friends at once and I don't even know why.
MalditoDia
January 14th, 2012, 02:25 AM
I tots understand. I know you really like them and all but i would try to fond some new friends. those two your talking aabout are flakes. I cant really help you because ive never been in this exact situation. bit ill be here if you need to vent. Are her and het dude cool?
TheHumanSpirit
January 14th, 2012, 12:29 PM
Thanks, and I'm not really sure.
Carlyle
January 14th, 2012, 01:45 PM
The thing is, Joe is right here. You're better off going to her than going to him, its her business to tell. Dropping it, as he said, was the best thing to do. Its okay to be a bit paranoid and worry, but you need to let her tell you when she's ready, unless she is really sick.
TheHumanSpirit
January 14th, 2012, 02:41 PM
The thing is, Joe is right here. You're better off going to her than going to him, its her business to tell. Dropping it, as he said, was the best thing to do. Its okay to be a bit paranoid and worry, but you need to let her tell you when she's ready, unless she is really sick.

Okay, thank you. That's very helpful. I will do that. My major problem was the fact that she and Joe would talk about me, even though we're mutual best friends. It seems like he enjoys it when she's mad at me, and I doubt he would've suggested to her that she talk to me if there's something wrong.
Can'tHelpIt
January 14th, 2012, 05:02 PM
maybe she thinkgs you gotta thing for her bf
TheHumanSpirit
January 14th, 2012, 08:08 PM
maybe she thinkgs you gotta thing for her bf

LOL, no, I highly doubt that. We were just having a normal, hey-how's it goin'? conversation. Although, if there is something going on between them, maybe she thought he was talking to me about it? That would be a highly unusual alternative, though, because we were laughing and it was a pretty light conversation.