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Joshh97
January 13th, 2012, 07:06 PM
Eughhh. My friend is very close to me. Basically, she came into school the other day with a fake smile, and when you've faked one for years, you just know some things up. So I started with the questions and it boils down to the point that I needed to know what's up because shes in a sexual relationship with her boyfriend and all but hes a little more adventurous than she is and she feels like she is made to do things like when hes coming over she has to say yes because she love him so much. Now I understand that love is strong, but I'm starting to think she feels obliged to do this. Anyway. I could tell she was upset still and she basically burst into tears on bbm, and I feel really bad. I don't know her boyfriend and I couldn't fight my way out of a wet paper bag. So I don't know what to do. I know how she feels but I don't know what to do. She has loads of scars and she admitted she wants to basically top herself.

Now I don't know what to do.

Let her and him sort it out and just sort of turn a blind eye to it - Although this could make things 10x worse
Comfort her 24/7 and then get beaten the shit out of
Hope to god it gets better and I stay there for her although running the risk of getting beaten up still

ImCoolBeans
January 14th, 2012, 01:34 AM
I think you just need to sit down and have a conversation with her about it, and go from there.

MalditoDia
January 14th, 2012, 02:11 AM
Just talk to her about it and always be a open shoulder.

Joshh97
January 14th, 2012, 06:38 AM
Thanks guys, hes coming over today and apparently hes been really nice so far. Time will tell :D

Carlyle
January 14th, 2012, 01:51 PM
Why would you get beaten up? If her boyfriend were to resort to violence, it just proves that he knows what he is doing is wrong. Is it possible that he's taking advantage of her? You really should try to just be there for her when she needs it, she might be able to cope with it better. She needs to be able to tell him that no means no, but also know she is not obligated to do anything sexual for/with him, regardless of the circumstances. Just try to be her shoulder that she needs when she's feeling down.

Can'tHelpIt
January 14th, 2012, 05:28 PM
Confront him! And tell him if he doesn't stop then stop dating your best friend