Stepdad's a homophobe.

[maramara]

My stepdad is a total homophobe. He tries to hide it behind his "open minded hippie" bullshit, but anytime a gay person is brought into the conversation, his face gets all hard and he starts being a dick. It really hurts my feelings, especially since I've been talking to my mom about a girl I like, and he always butts in and makes me feel like shit. I wish I could staple his mouth shut.

[Dimitri]

Hey hun, I am sorry to hear that but you know what, to be honest, it isn't his fault.

People act differently around different situations because they might not be able to fully grasp the subject, maybe you need to sit down and talk to him. My father is a huge homophobe and I have not come out to him about being bi myself but when my cousin mike decided to come out as gay he flew OFF THE HANDLE and I mean it was bad.

I sat and talked to him for what seemed like hours, my dad defense mechanism jet kicked into gear, I see you can talk to your moth we, try having her sit down with you while you talk to him, maybe she can help break the ice, it takes time for people to accept these things you know, it isn't the norm when they were growing up and now it is becoming all to common for use, we are used to it where that was a huge taboo for them.

I hope I made it a little clearer for you, just set back and try to see things from his perspective and if I m wrong, of well, shit happens, I am sorry, it is all apart of growing up, you can never please everyone....

Anyways, welcome to VT, let me know if you need anything, happy posting.

[gazazi1997]

My stepdad's a homophobe too. He's tryna tell me that I'm just "confused" whereas my Grandma told me she doesn't love me as much. My mom is bringing Jesus into it just complicating things even more.

Fml LOL

[caden048]

WHen a dad/stepdad or any parent for that matter acts enraged over anything of this nature study's have shown that they have had a similar issue in the past and that they dont agree with it....But honestly if my parents tried to say anything bout me i would just say screw them... i think my dad knows bout me but just dosent want to believe it...

[Carlyle]

Well, your step father needs to try to accept you more, but you have to realized that would take time. Depending on his upbringing, there is a chance he was taught that homosexuality of any form is wrong. You need him to understand too though, if he wont be nice about it then he needs to just be quiet and butt out. Even if he is your step father, being so rude to you isn't alright in this situation. Its not your fault that you are who you are, so getting mad at you for it would just be childish.

[KarkatLuv]

Well, you have had the guts to come out and if he can't accept that forget about it, make him feel extremely horrible, 10x worse than he makes you feel. Start off by saying "can you please change your attitude, you are being insensitive and mean." and if he keeps doing it and it really bugs you just snap. say something like "shut up, just shut up! i have had more courage than many by coming out so young and you keep making me feel like crap, until the day you accept me for who i am, i do not classify you as part of my family." or something, hope i helped

[Texas warrior]

It's a big pain in the ass being the only non homophobe in Texas, that's not gay.
But I know it is worse being gay in Texas. For instance my cuz was harping on gays ,and was doing it in the stupidest way can think of, and when I call him out on it HE gets all defensive. Think he is gay E mail me if you think so .

ps sorry if you can't figure out what I am saying, i do not speak English I speak Texan. Any one from Texas Knows what i am talking about, just fined a Texan that speaks English and Texan to translate it.

pps do homophobe cuzins count on this thread?