mosin1942
January 12th, 2012, 12:37 AM
Okay, so I am extremely picky about girls I am even willing to pursue. If they don't match my list I won't even consider them a viable option for dating.
I have issues showing and receiving affection as well. (I believe a lack of affection in all aspects of my life while growing up has led to this.)
So I have finally managed to find a girl that fits what I want, the only problem is she only sees me as a friend (much to my annoyance). Generally I would've walked away a long time ago because as a friend she pulls a lot of crap that just stresses me out. She gets mad at me everytime I get injured (which is pretty much a weekly basis). The really bizarre thing is she gets mad at me when I worry about her and I want to help her current situation (even though she does the same thing to me). Things have gotten even worse recently after I did some stupid crap (that she was not even involved in, it was basically injuries and other stupid stuff like that, it only affected me directly) and I am considering walking away from the friendship completely. Usually when she started pulling crap like this I would've walked away then and there, but there are outside circumstances that are keeping me where I am, and this is not likely to go away. Also she has refused to open up even as a friend, and as a result I stay closed off about an equal amount to her. This is a big part because I do not really want to even be friends with someone who shows no interest in being friends with me...
She also gets really mad at me, but when I offer to leave because I obviously stress her out, she refuses. So I have absolutely no clue what to do, what are your thoughts? Any and all suggestions are appreciated. (Also, I am nearly 100% certain that if I walk away I'm never going to find anyone else that fits what I want, and please, don't try to argue this part with me, there would be no point to that argument whatsoever :rolleyes: ) And one last thing, her getting mad at me is not on my list, but it is something I'd be willing to work through given the chance. Every thing I don't like about her in my opinion is either 1. able to be worked through or 2. too minor to worry about. She also has said that she does like everything about me, and though I match her list fairly well that she still doesn't like me. One last thing, I have a lot of different girls that have crushes on me, so I know it's not that I'm not someone that is flat out undesireable as a bf, but this one girl...
I have issues showing and receiving affection as well. (I believe a lack of affection in all aspects of my life while growing up has led to this.)
So I have finally managed to find a girl that fits what I want, the only problem is she only sees me as a friend (much to my annoyance). Generally I would've walked away a long time ago because as a friend she pulls a lot of crap that just stresses me out. She gets mad at me everytime I get injured (which is pretty much a weekly basis). The really bizarre thing is she gets mad at me when I worry about her and I want to help her current situation (even though she does the same thing to me). Things have gotten even worse recently after I did some stupid crap (that she was not even involved in, it was basically injuries and other stupid stuff like that, it only affected me directly) and I am considering walking away from the friendship completely. Usually when she started pulling crap like this I would've walked away then and there, but there are outside circumstances that are keeping me where I am, and this is not likely to go away. Also she has refused to open up even as a friend, and as a result I stay closed off about an equal amount to her. This is a big part because I do not really want to even be friends with someone who shows no interest in being friends with me...
She also gets really mad at me, but when I offer to leave because I obviously stress her out, she refuses. So I have absolutely no clue what to do, what are your thoughts? Any and all suggestions are appreciated. (Also, I am nearly 100% certain that if I walk away I'm never going to find anyone else that fits what I want, and please, don't try to argue this part with me, there would be no point to that argument whatsoever :rolleyes: ) And one last thing, her getting mad at me is not on my list, but it is something I'd be willing to work through given the chance. Every thing I don't like about her in my opinion is either 1. able to be worked through or 2. too minor to worry about. She also has said that she does like everything about me, and though I match her list fairly well that she still doesn't like me. One last thing, I have a lot of different girls that have crushes on me, so I know it's not that I'm not someone that is flat out undesireable as a bf, but this one girl...