I've being called a racist.

[yambo]

Ok, few months ago I've started be really attracted to that girl in school but I am so shy I couldn't even talk to her. My friend Tim has been pushing and encouraging me to go ahead and ask her for a drink. There's no way i can explain how hard it was for me to invite her. The only thing that hard I went through in my life was when I've learned to swin. I cried for months before I could swin but I made it. Same thing with Samantha, when I finally found the courage to approach her I was trembling but I did it, I found enough force to look at her in the eyes, smile and invite her for a coffee after school. Samantha is a lovely mixed black girl, she's kind of mexican/black I think. So we went for the coffee, took a table, started to talk, I was in heaven, when her mother stepped in the bar. She started to scream at me asking what I wanted from her daughter. I said 'I just want to have a drink with her'.

'MY DAUGHTER DOESN'T HAVE DRINKS WITH UGLY WHITE BOYS LIKE YOU !!!!! IF I EVER SEE YOU AROUND HER I CALL THE POLICE YOUNG RACIST PERVERT !!!'

then she took her daughter out of the cafe and since then I am crying all the time because I don't understand what happened. pleaze please please tell me what you understand from that story. I will be checking every ten minutes because I am so dying for an answer. The first time of my life I find enough courage in my heart to invite a girl and it turns out to be a disaster.

[nazzac]

Just one thing first. It says your a girl on your gender thing, but in the post, it says your a boy?

Anyway. I don't see what you did wrong. You did nothing racist or anything, so it could just be down to over protection. Have you tried talking to this girl to find out what was up?

The racist part could just be an outburst. So try talk to her without her mum knowing

[christcenteredlife]

ok so first off, as mentioned, what are you? lets figure that out first. are you male or female?

i agree the racist comment was simply said is haste, if it was said at all. (know i am only questioning this because of your male/female contradiction.) the constant crying would leave me to believe you are a girl, but hey, maybe you're an overly emotional guy.

if you are a girl, your whole story kinda falls apart, because a parent, typically, wouldn't have any issue's with 2 friends having coffee. maybe, if you are a known lesbian, assuming you're female, it freaked out the mother and she reacted in a way of protecting her child. even though it wasn't done tactfully.

regardless, you should stay away from this girl and give it some time. i would suggest trying to let her mother see who you really are. let her see you don't have any improper intentions and that your not a racist, that would help.

and because this whole, boy/girl issue has me confused, are you transgender or do you have a male look to where you'd be mistaken for a boy?

[Desuetude]

Maybe its how her mums been brought up, that different races don't socialise and mix together. I don't know like nazzac says you should try and talk to the girl you did absolutely nothing wrong. If her mum calls the police what are they going to do? arrest you for asking a girl you like to have a drink?
you shouldn't be intimidated or become even more shy or self consions just from this one thing that happened. You shouldn't take it to heart and should try again, this isn't how everyone will react and you did say that before her mum entered the scene you were 'in heaven' you shouldn't throw that away so easily. :)

[yambo]

Ho thanks a lot for these replies. I have corrected my profile now, It should display girl instead of boy. So yes I am a boy and I feel in love with that black/mexican girl. It took me a long time to read you all thank you for your answers. I hope I understand what you say so you're saying maybe her mom called me a racist because she had too many race related problems before and she thinks a young boy like me is pretty easy to play and I could be influenced by racist people ? that would make sense actually because a friend of mine in school is talking fascist/racist stuff all the time and he likes to say it loud and maybe Samantha's mom saw me around him and labelled me ?

ok thanks i hope I understand so you say I should stay away from her for a while so things can cool down ok

[Karynn]

. (http://www.teenforum.net/topic/7018-teen-bars/), few months ago I've started be really attracted to that girl in school but I am so shy I couldn't even talk to her. My friend Tim has been pushing and encouraging me to go ahead and ask her for a drink. There's no way i can explain how hard it was for me to invite her. The only thing that hard I went through in my life was when I've learned to swin. I cried for months before I could swin but I made it. Same thing with Samantha, when I finally found the courage to approach her I was trembling but I did it, I found enough force to look at her in the eyes, smile and invite her for a coffee after school. Samantha is a lovely mixed black girl, she's kind of mexican/black I think. So we went for the coffee, took a table, started to talk, I was in heaven, when her mother stepped in the bar. She started to scream at me asking what I wanted from her daughter. I said 'I just want to have a drink with her'.

'MY DAUGHTER DOESN'T HAVE DRINKS WITH UGLY WHITE BOYS LIKE YOU !!!!! IF I EVER SEE YOU AROUND HER I CALL THE POLICE YOUNG RACIST PERVERT !!!'

then she took her daughter out of the cafe and since then I am crying all the time because I don't understand what happened. pleaze please please tell me what you understand from that story. I will be checking every ten minutes because I am so dying for an answer. The first time of my life I find enough courage in my heart to invite a girl and it turns out to be a disaster.

Hi there Yambo. Why did the girl you had a coffee with stepped in the bar in the first place ? Is she always looking after her daughter so closely ?