How to deal...

[Aubrie]

I don't know if this is really where this belongs, so sorry if it should be somewhere else :\

I've posted before about my sexual assault when I was 13... Well, I also use another website for teens similar to this one, unfortunately people aren't as nice there as they are here. Anyway, I posted in this thread, where you can let out anything you want, a few times about the assault, but nothing really specific. Someone said this to me: "Another attention seeking harlot. Stop trying to make yourself the victim. And then stop trying to act like you're a survivor. "

I know that this is the internet and that I shouldn't take things seriously, but it still hurts. I suppose I just worry that others feel the same way. Sure I wasn't raped, but being forced to do any sexual act is terrifying and traumatizing.

To be honest, she may not have even been talking about my sexual assault. I've also posted in that thread about how I was groomed into doing things with some older guys, and I suppose I could see where she could make that argument. I ultimately "consented" then, even if I was groomed/manipulated/pressured.

I just take things to heart, so it's really getting to me. How do I deal with comments like that, especially if I were to get on from someone in person? If you've been in a similar situation, how did you react and get over the rude comment(s)? Thank you in advance!

[christcenteredlife]

my suggestion would be to stop making yourself SOUND like such a victim. i'm not saying you are or even think you are, but your wording, whether you see it or not, makes you appear this way.

you must be a strong person to get over what you have been through and maybe your constant posting on the topic, has made people think you're trying to prove how strong you are. which can be annoying.

im not saying this is so, it's speculation.

hope people stop saying cruel things to you and about you.

[Aubrie]

my suggestion would be to stop making yourself SOUND like such a victim. i'm not saying you are or even think you are, but your wording, whether you see it or not, makes you appear this way.

you must be a strong person to get over what you have been through and maybe your constant posting on the topic, has made people think you're trying to prove how strong you are. which can be annoying.

im not saying this is so, it's speculation.

hope people stop saying cruel things to you and about you.

That's the thing: I rarely post about it. I don't know. Oh well. Maybe it is my wording, but it's just how I write *shrug* I guess the best way to look at it is "to each his own." Thanks for the insight!

[christcenteredlife]

Anyway, I posted in this thread, where you can let out anything you want, a few times about the assault, but nothing really specific

that was your comment ^^^.

i'd honestly take a look at myself and think about what your saying and how you word things. no one likes being around people who are always playing the victim.

[Aubrie]

Anyway, I posted in this thread, where you can let out anything you want, a few times about the assault, but nothing really specific

that was your comment ^^^.

i'd honestly take a look at myself and think about what your saying and how you word things. no one likes being around people who are always playing the victim.

a few times =/= constant. A few times = maybe 5 times max in a 2 year period.

Anyway, I'll revisit some of my old posts and see what it sounds like from an objective standpoint.

[christcenteredlife]

constant is relative.

[Abyssal Echo]

I'm not sure if I should post here or start a new one

and beings that I am a male do not wish to sould like the little bitch that I have become.

but being tricked, cooerced, or presured to do something you do not wish to is no joke.
for a kid its a situation with no way out but compliance. I been there done that and know how it feels. I have seen first hand what a rat got for his trouble Yea I stood and watched what was done to him knowing I couldn't say or do anything or I would recieve the samething. Just another hard lesson about life. just like my Mom told me I had to learn to pick my battles.... Good thing I'm a fast learner. I could see that was one I could not win. I do not really know what was more traumatizing watching his beating or knowing I was his replacement. The good thing is that place was shut down about 3 yrs after I got out.
ENOUGH SAID....I wont post more about it.

[Carlyle]

You really have to ignore her. Honestly, most people who are the victim of any form of abuse are, well, victims. Its not attention seeking, just putting it somewhere can help people. People don't have to like what you say, or they can think its attention seeking, but don't let it get to you. There's nothing wrong with wanting to get thoughts about it off your chest :)

[OzGirlRachael]

I think it's mean what they said. Take no notice of it n try no to take it to heart.

[JJSSHH]

My sister was raped in June. She is now a published poet describing her trauma and pain surrounding it. She has a poem featured called "to the survivor". I recommend someone like you buying it and befitting enormously from it. Below is the link to amazon for the book. Stay Strong Survivor :)

http://www.amazon.com/Now-Words-Girl-Fought-Back/dp/1929657595/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1329280053&sr=8-1