friends with benefits

[Rooster13]

Is it okay to have friends with benefits when you are 15 yrs old and your "friend is 15" ? We are great friends and dont want a relationship as bf and gf.

[kenoloor]

People will undoubtedly disagree with me on this, but I see no problem with having a friend with benefits. I think that as long as you're able to disconnect the emotions and keep it purely physical, you're good to go.

[ElMonstruo]

I say that's totally chill. Have fun.

[screamtobeheard]

I feel like it's your life, so you should do what you want with it. Just, as Bradi said, make sure to keep emotions out of it if you don't want a relationship.

[Ambrosia]

People will undoubtedly disagree with me on this, but I see no problem with having a friend with benefits. I think that as long as you're able to disconnect the emotions and keep it purely physical, you're good to go.

For the first time ever, I actually agree with you.

But in all honesty, be very careful with this. If there's anyone on this forum who can give good advice about this, I'm definitely them. It's hard to have a friend with benefits relationship and not have emotions eventually develop for the opposite person. Lots of people say they can avoid this happening but, after so long, it's going to happen. Especially at your ages. I'm sure you aren't very skilled in the art of sex or sexual anything, for that matter, so it can make it even more easier for one or both of you to end up taking it wrong.

Make sure she is okay with it, first. And make it clear you don't want anything more than just that. Use protection, because the LAST thing you want to happen is for her to get pregnant and have to explain to her parents that she is "pregnant but isn't dating the guy who did it..."

[christcenteredlife]

just be prepared for the possibility of a baby

[Love.Hate]

I think as long as your safe, then i see no problem with it :)

However sometimes you may become emotionally attatched when you dont mean too... so careful! i know i have in the past and it isnt good. As long as you two are both okay with it :)

[FullyAlive]

This clearly isn't the popular opinion but whilst I agree with the principle after all relationships are hard work, I personally don't think you should have a friend with benefits at 15. I'd wait until the legal age in your country, not sure what that is. Not because I think you aren't mature enough or anything just that having sex just because you want it and not because you love the other person is less socially acceptable at your age.

Also you could both end up with a bit of a reputation however your friend in particular is more likely to suffer from this just because she's female and that's how society works.

So yeah I haven't a problem with it, I'd just be concerned about your ages.

[CrossingtheCourtyard]

Personally I don't think it's a great idea. You're still pretty young, I mean, have you ever even been in a meaningful relationship or done anything sexual before this? Call me sentimental but it seems doing stuff like that should be with someone you care about.

Friends with benefits is just that, no real feelings attached to it. If you can do that, then hey, all the power to you. Just try not to get attached to your friend as anything besides a friend.

[Jose]

I think its ok afterall w benefits is a mutual which means anything they do must be ok with both sometimes pdople entoy rex but dont want all the crap thdt goes along w bf:gf hey if u and bud give hj or bj 00r freinds too right

[Jupiter]

People will undoubtedly disagree with me on this, but I see no problem with having a friend with benefits. I think that as long as you're able to disconnect the emotions and keep it purely physical, you're good to go.

i actually agree with this here.

[Nihilus]

Go for it, but expect the unexpected. Be careful.