Being more of a man?

[Cicero]

So I've never been super manly, and I'm embarrassed of that. I would consider myself a bit of a prep, because I like wearing designer clothes. I'm not much of an athlete but I'm changing that. My main questions are how can I practice being more of a man?

Im going to a different school in 8 months and im wanting to join a sport. If I end up not joining a sport, would I still be respected if I am in really good shape and will girls want to date me?

Will P90X get me in good enough shape to play Football?

[Thunduhbuhlt]

I know a lot of preppy guys and to be honest, they are just as able to get girls as the jocks are and are no less of men. Don't even worry about it.

[christcenteredlife]

you need to get in shape with good cardio and weights for football. the system you mentioned im not a fan of. i personally bench 260 push weight. and in hs just about ANYONE can get on the team.

[Core]

Just be urself and if u find the right girl shell love u no matter what

[Cat lover 3]

U should just be your self and u are putting you self in be a man box ( challenge day)

[Hermes]

If you enjoy sport or if you want the exercise to stay in shape then by all means do it. Same if you think developing your body will impress the girls.

For me, though, neither of these make you a man. Being a man is about responsibility. Taking responsibility for your own life - finishing your education, getting employment. If you meet a partner and really love each other being able to stand by her when things get tough. If you go on to have a family being there to support, protect and nurture and guide your children.

[DerBear]

Every girl like a diffrent type of guy, its just find the right one.

The part I want to highlight is the respect part you mentioned.

All I am going to say is that respect is earned and you will get some of the **** heads out their who do not respect other people but being tough to earn respect is more of a joke and becomes on borderline bullying.

Like I said respect is earned it is not a given.

[Brighter.Tomorrow]

What I was always taught, was that being a man is about qualities, not about being a stereotype. Almost any girl will love you if you give her true respect.
If you like sports, join them. If not, then don't. If a woman doesn't like you for you, there's not much point of that relationship.
Ask anyone that knows me, and they'll tell you I'm pretty fruity, I hate sports, and love reading. Ask my girlfriend, and she'll tell you that I open door for her, enjoy cooking for her, and further examples.
Be respectful, and a good person, and plenty of people will like you, don't worry about going into sports unless YOU truly want to. You'll do fine. =]

[Clawhammer]

Not what being a man is about, kid, sounds like you're more after being some sort of jock. Stop trying to live for girl's approval and wait for one who'll like you for you, one who's really worthwhile. Work out if you want to. If you're after respect, dress for it, work for it, earn it. The 'image' of an athlete isn't going to solve your problems. Sure, it can be good, and if you want to, by all means go ahead. But looking good and getting girls isn't being a man. Don't figure that out the hard way.

Here's a few pointers if manhood is what you're after...
-Dressing for it, doesn't mean a suit and tie, but if you dress respectfully, people will respect you. Sure, you might get teased a bit at first, but you just have to get past that. Just go semi-formal, it can make a surprising difference.
-Work for it, work hard, get good grades, be honest, no cheating or anything up that category. Respect your teachers, you'll earn their respect in turn, and trust me, that's a good thing.
-Earn it, respect people. Treat women properly, that always stands out these days (things like giving up your seat or holding the door), stay clean in more than one way, and like I've been saying all over for this entire post, respect other people and they will respect you.
-One other thing, if you're after a girl through this, I'm not saying that this will make them flock to you or something. But if you wait for one who likes you for who you are, that's what is worth your while.
Good luck out there, lad.

[pmm98]

I'm not into fighting and getting up in peoples faces, i'm not very athletic either and I hang around with plenty of girls and can get a date easily it's about being confident with the person you are that's what makes you a man but you can always try to improve things about yourself like practicing coordination and what not to be more athletic but don't change your personality

[Tonebone88]

If you want to get more in shape, then that's fine. But there's no sense in changing your personality and joining a sport you may not like just because you think it will give you the image of a jock and make you more desirable. Girls should like you for who you are, not how you look. Just be yourself! And this is coming from a nerd with next to no fashion sense. I don't really care what other people think.