I want to come out on Facebook, is this the way to go?

[Frankie66]

Ok, so I have recently decided that i want people to know that i am bisexual, but I'm just not sure how to word it so here is what i want to put... "I wish I could go back a year, to the fun times because once you leave you realize what a mistake it was, but in that pile of mistakes that came, with it I found the truth and the beauty is that I found myself, my true self and well some of you on here might not accept me and that's fine but all i want you to Know is that I am the same person, and if you are that type of person who judges others than you are a shitty person, so accept it or not I am bisexual and I am proud to be one!" So yah this is what i want to put but like is it good/bad? :confused:

[Scotland]

I think thats very well written, however i wouldn't suggest facebook as a way to tell people, instead just tell people who need to know ... e.g friends you talk to regularly.

The reason i disagree with facebook is because facebook is a place where people can sit behind their keyboards and act all high and mighty meaning you may get a lot of unfair ridicule on facebook instead of the support you deserve, its your choice but i think it'd be better if you just told your friends by word of mouth, or even text.

-Scotland

[Frankie66]

Wow um thanks I have never had a person give such good advice not even my parents lol thanks a lot :)

[Craig1995]

That is an awesome way to put it it's reallly well worded
When I came out I considered Facebook as an option but it kinda just is a way for people to be horrible who wouldn't say stuff to ur face. It's a gd way to tell people without having to go face to face tho :)
Gd luck how ever you choose to do it I'm sure it will work out in the end and if it's bad at first remember it always gets better.

[Frankie66]

Yeah, I really do want to come out but almost 96% of the kids in my school are homophobes and all they do is diss gay/bi kids and yah and i feel like really loanely, but i know i have friends who will accept me, if you dont mind me asking, was it easy for you to come out to your fiends and family?

[Craig1995]

I found it easier to come out to close friends then the word just sorta travelled round family was probably the hardest because I don't have the most open dad in the world and the whole family is all Christian and stuff but it definetely went better than I thought it was going to,
Coming out will probably be one of the hardest things for u to do I know it was for me but omg it's soo worth it in every way :)

[Frankie66]

Yeah I bet, i feel so trapped like behind a see through curtain Ive only told one friend and like ive given suttle hints to my family but yeah they are always saying like oh when are you going to get that special girl and im always just saying yah... so yeah i really want to come out to family but my family is going through a tough time as it is and i dont really know if its the best time so yah lol thanks for all the advice

[Dmtuba]

I would tell my close friends first.

[CrossingtheCourtyard]

Yeah I bet, i feel so trapped like behind a see through curtain Ive only told one friend and like ive given suttle hints to my family but yeah they are always saying like oh when are you going to get that special girl and im always just saying yah... so yeah i really want to come out to family but my family is going through a tough time as it is and i dont really know if its the best time so yah lol thanks for all the advice

That is... so sad.

I know this may contradict what I said in response to your 'for bi teens only' thread, but sometimes discretion and subtlety is lost on people. You may need to casually bring it up, or give them a blunt, no-nonsense talk.

You are right. It may not be the best time, but honestly there's no perfect time. If really feel so isolated, than it might be best to tell them, or at least find someone you can confide in about your feelings.

So... original question, about Facebook. No... no, not really a great idea, but I think some of the other posters have summed this up far better than I could. Perhaps once you've come out to most people, the simple change of your "Interested In" thing to say "Men and Women" will be enough to tell the rest.

[christcenteredlife]

ya know, why do people care about other peoples sexuality? if you aren't in a relationship with them, why does it matter?

[Frankie66]

wow, thanks for the advice and yes i totaly agree with you both but yah i dont get why people care about other peoples sexuality its stupid.

[biboykyle]

i agree with pretty much everyone else here... facebook's probably not the best way to go... i just came out as bi this week but only to some close friends. i thought about facebook but i just didn't want everyone to know yet and i figured there would be a ton of people that would write terrible stuff.

[Abyssal Echo]

I came out last year...but only to my friends and family members that I wanted to know

[BeyondOne]

Word spreads like wild fire, especially in school. I agree with everybody else in not doing it on facebook. I'd talk to your closest friends and family, then when your ready, move on to others. :) Good luck!

[Frankie66]

Thx for the advice

[Riddler40]

I came out as bi on facebook at the start of the year. I basically just said "Well here goes, I'm bi. Happy new year." At the time I knew it was the right thing to do, and I did get a lot of likes and comments of support. but as a result stuff happened with my dad and other things, and I now regret it so much.

[KidImage]

Ok, so I have recently decided that i want people to know that i am bisexual, but I'm just not sure how to word it so here is what i want to put... "I wish I could go back a year, to the fun times because once you leave you realize what a mistake it was, but in that pile of mistakes that came, with it I found the truth and the beauty is that I found myself, my true self and well some of you on here might not accept me and that's fine but all i want you to Know is that I am the same person, and if you are that type of person who judges others than you are a shitty person, so accept it or not I am bisexual and I am proud to be one!" So yah this is what i want to put but like is it good/bad? :confused:

I admire what your doing here you actually wanna show people who you really are, do what you want to do. Im straight but i admire people who come out cause there not being fake to themselfs.:yes:

[Frankie66]

Thanks :)

[prob1996]

I agree with most of the above Posters. FB is probably not the best idea just yet cause it will spread sooo quickly. I came out to just a few close friends. PPl at school now know and it is a little tough at times but I'm much happier on the inside and about who I am. I would take it step by step, get some confidence and then come out on FB when you have some good friends to support u. Good luck!!!

[ShootingStar]

Facebook is never a good idea to spread news, as people tend to use the screen as a shield an say nasty things they wouldn't dare say in real life. I can't really talk, I don't give a shit what anyone thinks of me..my info box on facebook will tell you i've never drunk, never smoked, and am still a virgin. But that's jus me :P. I think you should talk to the people who WILL support you, eg your close friends first :)
good luck!
ss....x

[Frankie66]

Thanks for the advice :)

[oscarlichen]

I know I may have a different opinion than everyone, and this is a late post and all, but I came out over Facebook and I had problems of course, but it's a faster way to "rip off the band aid" in a way. Whether or not you come out over Facebook you'll get hate because the world will never agree with you. So regardless, I stick with coming out over facebook

[Frankie66]

I know I may have a different opinion than everyone, and this is a late post and all, but I came out over Facebook and I had problems of course, but it's a faster way to "rip off the band aid" in a way. Whether or not you come out over Facebook you'll get hate because the world will never agree with you. So regardless, I stick with coming out over facebook

Thanks i was thinking about coming out to some close friends, which i have been doing and then just letting everyone else know through facebook thanks for the advice :)

[Erasmus]

Yeah, I wouldn't use Facebook, tell your family and close friends first, and then slowly start telling other people.

[Thunduhbuhlt]

I would say...NO! If you say something on Facebook, there might be more judgement. If you say it to certain people, it will be safer. Just take that route. And if you get a chance, watch the movie Cyberbully, because it has a similar thing. People will say more on the internet, just remember that. Be careful, and just choose your trusted friends and relatives.

[Thomas01]

Well I came out as gay that way and everyone received it well. There was only like one reaction that maybe I shouldn't have came out over Facebook but I decided that I didn't want to wait. It was December 31, 2011 at 11:00pm and I've been happy since :D

[ZzKingz]

What I did was I told my close friends, and my immediate family, because they're the ones who genuinely should know. Then I quietly changed my "interested in" to men, so that whoever wants to know can find out. I don't think it's important that everyone knows your sexuality.

[OregonStateDude]

Yeah, I think doing it over Facebook is kind of a bad idea. When I told my best friend, it was through good old fashioned face to face communication.

[Pink Floyd]

The LAST thing you want to do is broadcast your sexuality on facebook. It could potentially ruin your life, I wish some people realized that facebook is just a social networking site to keep yourself updated with friends. Not a diary.

[boosterboy1]

Facebook isn't the way to go, stuff spreads like wildfire on Facebook

[canadaski]

Tell your family and close friends first. Don't update your facebook status. My guess is that you have some near strangers on your friends list; your sexuality is none of their business. If you want to, you can update your interested in, but delete the posted message off of your wall/timeline and change the visibility to friends or individual people.

[VictoriaGotaSecret]

today i was talking to one of my friends today in class and she said that one of her very close friend came out as gay on fb and that he was very widely accepted by most of the people who saw it

so maybe depending on the people who surround you it could work out well

[Mirage]

That is well written, it definitely gets the point across in a good light. You're right, you are a shitty person if you judge by sexuality.