coming out questions

[bleachedteen]

I have decided I am going to come out to my parents very soon. but I have a few concerns/doubts

1. my parents are homophobic, they don't go out of their way to bash homosexuals but they like to pretend it doesn't exist and they think it's wrong.

2. I'm bisexual and I think my parents will get more mad if i was bisexual then if i was gay

3. I'm gonna set up something with a friend in case they kick me out, but i feel like they won't do this. I am going to leave if they treat me badly though. If my dad tries to stop me (I know I have no chance getting past) Can i contact the authorities/police/my therapist so that they can make my dad let me leave?

4. what if they try to 'fix me' or make me be straight?

5. I have no clue how to bring it up with them. I feel like a letter would be innapropriate because I know they are against it. So how do i break the ice? Do I just sit them down one day and say 'mom and dad, I like boys, and girls and I wanted you to know'

[RedInkLies]

I'm a bisexual girl who had to face this situation not too long ago.That's very difficult. My mother is homophobic, and not to scare you, but I told her I was bisexual and she pretty much disowned me. LUCKILY, I never lived with my mother in the first place! It depends on your relationship with your parents. Do you feel like they love you and support you enough to continue to treat you the way they do now knowing that you have an irrefutable attraction to both sexes? My grandfather tried to fix me (haha) by setting me up on all these dates with native american boys ( I suppose he didn't understand that I think boys and girls are yummy). He also took me to a church (not that I'm even a christian) and had the priest pray over me. I took it with a grimace and grin, but it was tough. I suppose..you sit them both down and just...tell them. Or, find a counselor help you with telling them. It isn't easy to do it by yourself. And, if you are 18 o older, you can legally leave yourself. I think in the states you have to be emancipated to have full rights of an adult. You can call child protective services if things get out of hand, though.

[bleachedteen]

oh, might be important to mention that I am 15
and i have the oppurtunity to bring it up with a therapist but i feel like they will just put out a fake reaction to keep up appearances

this is really helpful just to hear stories, and i hope I'm preparing for all the possibilities

[Dimitri]

Yes, all of this looks about right but the best thing could be to DO IT IN PUBLIC, if your parents rant the kind to make a scene in public, they might think they are embarrassing themselves do it there.

[bleachedteen]

what if I come out in public or around others and then they just get mad later when we are alone, or treat me badly or yell or something

[Dimitri]

Hey then you have time to call someone, I mean, i have come out to my friends about being bi but I have not and do not plan on telling my parents, I have a girlfriend atm and that, in my mind means I am safe....