A question for teenage girls

[Notateen4muchlonger]

I have a question, and I need to be careful on how I word it...

Quite often, girls will wear low-cut shirts, colorful bras, very low-rise pants, etc.

Now I know part of why girls wear it is because it is the style, etc.

But here is the issue i've always thought about:
Girls don't like to be objectified- this is quite logical because who wants to be?
Girls don't want to have people think that they are slutty- again who wants to be called that?
But... despite these things, lots of girls wear things that are supposed to make guys stare.
Now... Many girls don't like being stared at, but they wear outfits that you want people to look twice



To summarize, I know girls want to feel good and stuff, but why does it seem like girls sometimes wear something for attention but then don't like the attention?

Is it just me?

I'm not trying to label or be an ass, so i'm sorry if this is offensive. But I have noticed a trend along these lines.

[jacob_1995]

I have a question, and I need to be careful on how I word it...

Quite often, girls will wear low-cut shirts, colorful bras, very low-rise pants, etc.

Now I know part of why girls wear it is because it is the style, etc.

But here is the issue i've always thought about:
Girls don't like to be objectified- this is quite logical because who wants to be?
Girls don't want to have people think that they are slutty- again who wants to be called that?
But... despite these things, lots of girls wear things that are supposed to make guys stare.
Now... Many girls don't like being stared at, but they wear outfits that you want people to look twice



To summarize, I know girls want to feel good and stuff, but why does it seem like girls sometimes wear something for attention but then don't like the attention?

Is it just me?

I'm not trying to label or be an ass, so i'm sorry if this is offensive. But I have noticed a trend along these lines.

I completely agree with you.

[vtRED]

should be in questions for boys and girls.

this is what i think about this whole situation. every one wants to think that they are beautiful men included, so we get dressed up and look nice for the opposite sex, we want people to look at us and be attracted. now some females get mad when a man looks at them. well ladies if you don't want a man to look at you maybe cover up a little more. you dress in a certain way, and you put all your make up, but hey if i guy notices you, you get hostile. heres an idea, if you dont want men looking at you dont dress your self up. now not all women get mad at you for noticing them, some get rather flattered, but then you got the ones that get all pissed, even kno there wearing skin tight jeans or a mini skirt and a tight shirt. what do you honestly expect to happen when you dress like that in public?

[Ambrosia]

PGirls :arrow: PBoysANDGirls

[Anna G]

Time and place for everything going out to have fun and be noted fine. Wearing to school not good. That's why we have uniforms at my school and it is OK. After school sometimes we go to the mall before going home and boys just stare and its so creepy because they are not used to that at their school.

[Notateen4muchlonger]

Personally, I think a girl that tries to look good and cares about their image is attractive. Like they put some effort into looking good. They don't have to spend an hour on hair and makeup, but if they care enough to wear a nice top, and not ripped jeans, and there isn't excessive cleavage, etc.

Like the plunging necklines and mini skirts- sure they are hot for parties. A party is a different atmosphere, so you can look sexy, but I think it is just as sexy to look simply well put-together in a normal setting.

[Chris95]

I think some just like to be teasing sluts.

[tenfour]

I think some just like to be teasing sluts.
Well, this is incredibly sexist. It's not "teasing" to wear something revealing. Women can wear something revealing just because they want to look good (which can include looking sexy) without implying that they want to have sex with anyone. As for the "slut" remark, I don't like the term to begin with, just because the number of people with whom you have sex has no mark on your character, but as what you wear doesn't say that you want to have sex to begin with, the term is being doubly misapplied here.

Anyway, to answer the original question, there's a difference between being attracted to someone and objectifying them, just as there's a difference between attention and creepy, lascivious attention.

[learnaboutme]

Well let me tell you something...I might be young but I'll tell you why I do some of the things you are talking about. I'm 13 and like to feel and look good. I don't do it for the guys but I do it for myself. If a guy looks at me I take it as a compliment, if they stare it just shows the type of guy they are and let me tell you it's not good. If a guy stares like a creepy stare then it's just plain disrespectful. It's not our (girls) fault that a lot of guys think we girls have an intention to be "sluts" as you say here. Honestly we probably wouldn't look twice at most of the guys that look at us. Most of the time we don't even notice (unless it is a creeper, so we can get away) guys looking at us unless we are interested. So guys be more respectful of how you see girls and you just might have a shot. Keep up this attitude and keep going home to "Rosie and her 5 sisters".

[Chris95]

Well, this is incredibly sexist. It's not "teasing" to wear something revealing. Women can wear something revealing just because they want to look good (which can include looking sexy) without implying that they want to have sex with anyone. As for the "slut" remark, I don't like the term to begin with, just because the number of people with whom you have sex has no mark on your character, but as what you wear doesn't say that you want to have sex to begin with, the term is being doubly misapplied here.


Note the fact that I said "some". There are definitely "some" who do it for that reason and that reason alone.

[bobynrobyn]

if you like whats going on in your world, then keep doing what your doing....and if you don't like whats going on ....then quit !!!!!!

bobynrobyn