break up...

[melia_allen]

*sigh* well my boyfriend and i jsut broke up yet again and yet again i can't do anything right. I mean i love him I really do but i just don't think that i am ready for a relationship...i really don't think that i am. Cause i always feel pressured in a sense....I told him that i don't think i am ready for a relationship and that i am sorry cause at the time i did.... was i in the wrong?

[screamtobeheard]

If you thought you were ready for a relationship, it isn't your fault that your feelings changed. It's not wrong, especially since you acted upon your not being ready for a relationship. I think you did the right thing, personally.

[melia_allen]

thanks its just now he is depressed.. and now i feel bad...

[screamtobeheard]

Yeah, I'd imagine that's difficult, especially if you love him. But I think it will hurt less now, then if you drag him along for awhile and then all of a sudden, throw something like this at him.

[melia_allen]

yeah i feel bad i mean i asked if we can be friends and he says "I guess" and now he is saying to move on to someone else that he will be able to make me happpier than he ever could... and that he is sorry for tring so hard to make it work

[screamtobeheard]

...That seems a bit harsh of him to say, in my opinion. I think just try not to dwell too much.

[melia_allen]

*sigh* okay it is hard tho...

[screamtobeheard]

I know, sweetie. It's gonna be hard, but it'll get easier as time goes on.

[Spook]

I don't think he really gets the concept of "not ready for a relationship." You've obviously stated to him that, correct? I don't understand why he thinks that you'd move on. It seems like he feels you broke up with him because of another guy? I don't know. But do understand that it is going to be really hard for him, because he was ready for a relationship, but you aren't. It will take him some time to sort of get back on track, so don't be too hard on him for what he says. It's important; though that you be there for him. :) Good luck melia (btw beautiful name)

[melia_allen]

i always have been there for him, even when he did call me every bad name under the moon and sstars i still treated him like it didn't happen and always have and always will be like that