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greenthumb95
January 6th, 2012, 04:38 AM
so I have always been a very straight man. I love women, and I am married. 6 years ago, a year before i met my wife, i noticed that when i saw a mans penis..i became very sexually aroused. i began having intense and frequent sexual fantasies of giving a hot guy oral sex and getting anal. the fantasies are so intense that i simulate the acts with sex toys. anyways, girls i have dated have confronted me about my orientation, and men hit on me. the catch in all this is..i have no desire at the current time to date a guy. honestly, my confusion is at an all time high, and i dont know how to handle it.

lot of it is curiosity. wondering if its for me. the weird thing too is how many female friends of mine have confronted me about it. my wife has made comments when shes wasted that make me think she suspects something, and then there was the whole craigslist thing

she caught me looking at the casual encounters on craigslist once. like, i searched for bi couples. shes like, why were you on there? at first i denied it, then shes like dont lie to me..its not that a big of a deal. you arent gay are you? i said no, then shes like..its not that big of a deal. she had seen the browsing history.

PS. I am 27.

I love women, always have. Love sex, and have a high sex drive. However, I can't ejaculate inside a woman while having sex. This has happened with every girl ive slept with. Is this due to too much masturbation, or is my body trying to tell me I am homosexual?

Hello everyone. I have recently discovered I am quite possibly bisexual as I desire to perform sexual acts on men. My only issue is figuring out a way to tell my spouse. I am not sure how she would react to the news, as she sometimes seems close minded about the topic, but then other times not.

When she drinks, she makes comments that make me think she suspects something..but I dont know exactly how she will react..and that is what scares me. On one hand, I can see her freaking out..on the other..I can see her not being suprised at all. I wish there was a way to see exactly how she would react..before I tell her. Any suggestions? Thanks !

mcadams1992
January 6th, 2012, 04:59 AM
Well for one im 19 and no im not bi (sorry to sound harsh if i do) I love women.... but as i see your situation you have a few questions popped up in my head...

1. do you plan on staying with her or leaving her, because divorce is not good.

2. What kinds of acts do you think of? its common for dudes to have fears of being bi o gay because we are so hyped up into being masculine a fear resides in us.. ive felt a similar feeling but its because im have a fear of being bi when i know perfectly well im not

3. As for reaction you will only know till you tell her. I told my woman that i had a fear of being bi an she just laughed an said you cant like penis just my pussy an i was like well no shit lol its a fear... mabey you are afraid?

I have not experienced the sexual arousal to me its just disguisting (sorry to judge but im trying to be as open as i can to a stranger)

I hope i helped you out dude feel free to add me if you would like

Levi scott
January 6th, 2012, 02:46 PM
Coming fm a gay 19 year old here I would say That you may be just really curious about gay sex. But then agian who am I to say that. Only you can tell your orientation and it's a possibility that your wife has caught on or maybe she hasn't it's hard to tell. Maybe she jut picks on ya about it when she makes those comments. Alot of times when people are drunk the truth comes out of how they think. It's really hard to tell, maybe you should bring it up one day and just go straight at it. I'm not sure how it would blow over. Hope I helped :)