help with freind

[camilo96]

right, so thee is a part one to this question, which is directly below. i already have answers for this part. i have a question on the second part. im not sure what to do really,

ok so well, i im about to turn 15. i have a neighborhood friend and he is 12. he and i have known each-other like for ever. his parents completely trust me. anyways, anytime we go out to ride bikes, or walk whatever, he asked me like about puberty, sex and stuff. i feel kinda awkward giving this info to a kid like 3 or 4 years younger that m, but i feel like he SHOULD know it. today he admitted to getting a boner, but he had no idea what it was. what do you guys think, should i keep giving him answers an stuff, introduce him to porn, maybe even tell him how to j/o ? i feel confused

[part 2]

ok, so i told him what a boner was, and he made the connection to sex by himself. he keeps asking me questions every time we go out, and i give them to him. he said i was like a big brother to him. i keep giving them to him, and he keeps asking more personal questions, like, do you have _____ or will i get ____, he asked me if i could show him my leg hair. i have felt tempted to show him a puberty/growing up video from you tube, on my iPhone. because he went to a private school, and they did not show that to him there. he wont cover health until 8th , and that's sex ed. any advice?:confused::confused::confused:

[willy93]

if you're comfortable with it then i say go ahead, he's going to get it from someone (or somewhere) anyway

[Jupiter]

maybe ask him if he in comfortable watching a video that will answer his questions.

that's nice of you to help.

[Wakesetter03]

I think you helping him is fine.
As long as it doesn't go further.

[Tonebone88]

I think you have two options. You can mention to his parents that he's been asking about this stuff and suggest that they have a serious talk with their son about puberty so he's not so confused. Or you can tell all the changes that will occur throughout puberty yourself so that he knows what's coming. the second option can be combined with an educational video or you showing him yourself (if he asks). Either way he needs to be educated. I hated going through puberty without knowing what was going on...

[Short Circuit]

It is clear that this boy is comfortable asking you about this kind of stuff than asking his parents. So long as your only telling him this stuff it is ok, but you should draw a line when he starts asking you to show him.

[Lego]

Dont force anything on him but
If
He asks
Tell him
Sent from ipoda

[wildmanjesse]

First of all that is so sweet he looks up to you and maybe answer his question but dont introduce him to porn

[mcadams1992]

from what i see its fine and good natured. i have a neighbor that is 4 years younger than me im 19 and he was 15 me and him would hangout practically everyday. he would come over play videogames and we would bullshit about whatever was on our mind. I think your friend feels comfortable asking you things but not his own parents. he wants answers from someone who recently went through the same experience. i say its okay DO NOT SHOW HIM PORN if anything a swimsuit model magazine at the most i gave my buddy a sports illustrated one... but mine an his relationship is different from yours for one im 19 and your 15 so its a bit different... i think its okay as long as you dont past that point.. his parents should be more intune with their sons life mabey confront your dad about it and see if he will talk to your friends dad... i wish you luck buddy

[CoolGuyXD]

I say its nice and all for you to answer his questions. I wouldnt give him to much detail until he gets older or maybe his parents don't want him to know that stuff yet. I would not show him porn at all. That is for him to find. Imagine if his parents caught him...not good. With younger people they don't stay as alert as we do when we do stuff like that. They just panic. Hope this helps.

[Giles]

What you're doing and have already done is perfectly fine, I wish that more people did this to younger siblings or friends. I would recommend that you draw the line at that however, showing him a video specifically designed for puberty/sex ed is fine but introducing him to porn and masturbation isn't your place. If he's going to watch porn and masturbate then he should learn about that himself, it's not something that you should be describing.

[charlie3322]

awe! thats so nice that you ar elike a bro to him. im sure he reallly appreciates that! well anyways i say keep on helping him!:)

[maxii]

Help him. But don't show him how to jack off and stuff. It may lead to some thing else. And that would be wrong. You don't want him to go to his parent, "he showed me how to masterbate". So yeah

[mac42]

Agreed with all who said keep teaching him, but do not show him the porn or how to jack off.

Be a good role model and answer things honestly without going too deep. There is only so much 12 year old should know, you do not want to take away his innocence even though he is curious.

[Core]

Just keep helpin him out, just don't show him porn

[Ace007]

I think you can help him is fine, but as long as it doesn't go further....noway I would show videos.. It's legal...

[camilo96]

thanks :) really helpful ! ill keep you people posted !!

[TomTheTroll]

I would give him the info, But make sure he doesn't get 'any ideas'