Not sure what to do, any advice?

[TheKid17]

I'm a guy (13) and there is this girl I really like. She is really, really, really shy. She told me she also likes me(over facebook chat). We've been on a couple of dates. Funny thing is, we don't seem to have any similar interests, we're nothing alike. The only mutual thing is our feelings. Unfortunately, she recently told me that she's nervous whenever she's around me. I asked her why, she doesn't know. All she knows is she gets nervous. I always get happy when I see her. Also, we are probably going to go to different schools next year and she was worried we are running out of time. Does anyone have any advice as to how I can help her stop feeling nervous around me and also about the "running out of time" issue?

[screamtobeheard]

I think you just have to be relaxed around her, and show her there's nothing to be nervous about. It's about getting to know her. The better she knows you, the easier it will be for her to be around you. It's pretty normal for a girl to feel nervous around a guy she likes, but the fact that she admitted it to you shows she trusts you. About the "running out of tim" thing, is there a way that you could still keep in touch and see her if you go to different schools? If so, just tell her you can still be together. You can see her on weekends and still talk to her all the time, even if you're at different schools. My boyfriend is in college, and I'm in high school, so I see him maybe once a week (if I'm lucky), but it's working out for us, and it can work out for you too, if you try it.

[melia_allen]

i agree...

[TheKid17]

I am always relaxed around her. I told her we could still keep in touch, but she said it wouldn't be the same. (I told her this before I made this thread.)

[Short Circuit]

If the 17 in your name is your age, and she is only 13, then personally, I think your too old for her, and this could be why she is nervous around you. She might be thinking you want sex, and may feel she is too young yet.

Just because she will be going to a different school, does not mean a relationship cant work. I go to a different school to my girlfriend, and it works out fine for us.

[CleoP]

I'm pretty shy, especially around the guy I like, we're great friends. I agree that she trusts you because she told you how nervous she gets. Personally, all people make me nervous, including him. The guy I like is very intense and stares at me a lot. Try to ease her nervousness by being laid-back, not asking her a lot of personal, pressing questions, smiling a lot and not staring directly in her eyes. Be funny, make her laugh.

If you guys really like each other, you can make it work. You'll have to make time for each other and communicate, but you'll be okay. :)

[TheKid17]

If the 17 in your name is your age, and she is only 13, then personally, I think your too old for her, and this could be why she is nervous around you. She might be thinking you want sex, and may feel she is too young yet.

Just because she will be going to a different school, does not mean a relationship cant work. I go to a different school to my girlfriend, and it works out fine for us.

In my original post i put "I'm a guy (13)" meaning I am 13. I know it can work even with going to different schools. She just doesn't seem to understand that.

CleoP, could you give me an example of what you mean by "laid-back". Also, I don't ask her a lot of questions and I'm always smiling around her. I'm also not always staring right into her eyes.

[Jupiter]

Well, why can't you guys just stay good friends? I mean.. what if it doesn't work out? Will you guys get all... awkward?

[TheKid17]

Well, why can't you guys just stay good friends? I mean.. what if it doesn't work out? Will you guys get all... awkward?

I'd rather focus on making it work out.