confused

[Slickrik]

Ok im bi and i have a crush on my "straight" friend....the reason for the quotations is that he knows about me but he says and does things that really arent straight and idk if he`s playing or not ... i want him to know how i feel about him but idk how... please help

[ImCoolBeans]

I am actually in the exact same situation as you are, it's very confusing. I personally would not make a move in this situation because if you are wrong, things most likely will not work out in your favor. If you do really like him and want to make something of it - wait a bit until you are more sure. Then take it from there.

[Scotland]

I dont think theres much point waiting around to find out, because if he's just playing then he will just continue to play and not know any different, just be straight up and honest and ask :)

-Scotland

[Lights]

There are 2 most probable outcomes from you talking to him about this:

1) You talk to him about your feelings, and hey what do you know, he happens to actually be feeling the same way back. This is the best possible outcome, and the one you obviously want. If you get this, I envy you. :P

2) You talk to him about your feelings, but unfortunately he does not feel the same way back. There's a good chance that after a talk like this where you explain how you feel, he may not act the same way he did before. Many 'straight' boys find it difficult accepting that another boy likes them, so they find it hard to act the same way they did before knowing anything. Because of this, you could be walking straight into isolation where that boy actually gets to a stage where he's keeping out of your way because he wants to avoid what he considers 'awkwardness'.

Some boys might react a little better to knowing another boy likes them, but in many cases, you'll find they don't take it too well. It took the boy that I like (who's straight) quite a while to get used to the fact I like him, and I know that at times he distanced himself from me because he felt confused. Generally now he's okay with me, and we'll even have a laugh sometimes, so that perhaps shows that with time things do improve.

Every situation is different, and none of the people on this thread, including yourself, know exactly how the boy you like is going to respond to your enlightenment. You have to be the judge of whether you think it's worth telling him, or whether it's going to deteriorate your friendship with him because he's a 'typical' boy who's not great at accepting another boy liking him. You seem to be under the impression, though, that he might not be straight. I think this gives you good grounds to talk to him, because if he is in any way appearing flamboyant or friendly with boys, then he will almost certainly accept your feelings, even if he is not gay/bi or does not feel the same way about you.

Good luck! :)

[Abyssal Echo]

I dont think theres much point waiting around to find out, because if he's just playing then he will just continue to play and not know any different, just be straight up and honest and ask :)

-Scotland

to much time is wasted on games.....just ask !

[ltodd98]

Ok im bi and i have a crush on my "straight" friend....the reason for the quotations is that he knows about me but he says and does things that really arent straight and idk if he`s playing or not ... i want him to know how i feel about him but idk how... please help


treat him as if it was just a girl. normal rules. dont rush. find out etc. and can someone who is bi please message me i need to speak. preferably a girl. but a boy wil be fine? :)