My Relationship...Advice?

[screamtobeheard]

I've been dating this boy for 6 months. I love him. I really do. And before we dated, I like him for 7 years. When I didn't see him, he was the reason I had a hard time even wanting to talk to anyone else. He's amazing. Treats me well, tells me I'm beautiful, tells me I'm his whole world. He would literally do anything for me, and I don't deserve him.

Here's the thing. I have these thoughts. And god, do I hate my fucking thoughts. I want to be free. I want to try things I can't do in a serious relationship. I want to live, not be tied down. I want out of my relationship, but I love him, and sometimes I feel like I need him. I'm so conflicted.

And then there's the thing...I feel like if I break up with him, it will kill him. I don't want to hurt him. I love him, and I always will. It's just that I don't really know if this is right.

I guess I just need some advice, if anyone has got any?

[VirtualTeen9000]

My two bestfriends were dating . The girl's been into him for years, while they were together they both loved each other very much. Just there was a problem , he was a douche and he changed himself to a great boyfriend but she was the problem , she was too shy. She also thought that she doesnt deserve him even though she's been into him for years , and he was so excited about their 6 month anniversary. Three days before their 6 month anniversary she broke up with him saying that she loves him and she doesnt want to hurt him and that she cant change . She lost her feeling for him even though she wanted him so bad through the years. It's been a month since then , and if you count that they see each other every day because we go together to school , they are pretty okay , not great but okay , just some awkwardness. So if you really dont feel anything about him just tell him that you dont want to hurt him and that you aren't meant to be together, that he deserves someone that'll care for him . I hope this will help you so good luck there :)

[screamtobeheard]

It's not that I've lost my feelings for him, it's just that I feel restrained by the relationship. It's complicated, I guess. :/ Thanks for your help.

[mcadams1992]

what you need to worry about is you and what you want... its not the end of the world if you are dumped.. trust me.. he will manage just fine... you cant be stuck with someone an tied down at a young age to where you dont get to experience the things you want to.. idk it sounds selfish but if your not being honest about what you want with him an you have other intentions than what he does its best not to lead people on...

[screamtobeheard]

what you need to worry about is you and what you want... its not the end of the world if you are dumped.. trust me.. he will manage just fine... you cant be stuck with someone an tied down at a young age to where you dont get to experience the things you want to.. idk it sounds selfish but if your not being honest about what you want with him an you have other intentions than what he does its best not to lead people on...

Yeah, it just feels selfish.
But I suppose it's selfish either way, really...

[mcadams1992]

yeah cause your not giving him what he should have but at the same time your not giving yourself it either.. its a double edged sword...

[screamtobeheard]

It definitely is. I'll figure it out.