FullyAlive
January 4th, 2012, 01:45 PM
I realise I post waaay too much but i'm posting again anyway.
I cannot cope with my mother, I feel suffocated. She treats me more like a child than she did when I was a child, and it really irritates me. She constantly wants my attention, she moans I don't spend time with her, or talk to her etc. But my time in the school term is pretty much taken up by work, revision, school, and then going out at the weekend. I spend more time than many of my friends do with my mother its not as if I ignore her.
She'll ask me when i'm doing my work, if I have work etc. I'm in year 12 at a grammar school sure I don't do my work immediately but I don't need her to nag me into it I wouldn't have been able to get where I am if I didn't do it of my own accord. She seems to think she has a much bigger role in my education than she does, i'm not saying she has no role at all, but I need her to step back. I'll come to her if and when I need to. I tell her about my exams, test grades and essay marks but I don't need her to try and involve herself the way she does.
She also doesn't like it when i'm in my room alone doing whatever, she'll try to get me to come downstairs and sit and watch TV with her or something, or she'll keep walking in every five minutes. All I want is peace and some time alone.
My dad is the complete opposite of this, I go days at a time without exchanging more than a couple of words.
I just want a happy medium.
I have tried talking to her about it before, her reply is she isn't like a lot of my friends parents she actually cares about me and likes to interact with her children. And she also likes to remind me she has to keep a closer eye on me than my brother because of my "problems".
I know I've put her through a lot but is it unreasonable to want her to back off just a bit, i'm an adult in less than 18 months I just want her to trust me more.
I cannot cope with my mother, I feel suffocated. She treats me more like a child than she did when I was a child, and it really irritates me. She constantly wants my attention, she moans I don't spend time with her, or talk to her etc. But my time in the school term is pretty much taken up by work, revision, school, and then going out at the weekend. I spend more time than many of my friends do with my mother its not as if I ignore her.
She'll ask me when i'm doing my work, if I have work etc. I'm in year 12 at a grammar school sure I don't do my work immediately but I don't need her to nag me into it I wouldn't have been able to get where I am if I didn't do it of my own accord. She seems to think she has a much bigger role in my education than she does, i'm not saying she has no role at all, but I need her to step back. I'll come to her if and when I need to. I tell her about my exams, test grades and essay marks but I don't need her to try and involve herself the way she does.
She also doesn't like it when i'm in my room alone doing whatever, she'll try to get me to come downstairs and sit and watch TV with her or something, or she'll keep walking in every five minutes. All I want is peace and some time alone.
My dad is the complete opposite of this, I go days at a time without exchanging more than a couple of words.
I just want a happy medium.
I have tried talking to her about it before, her reply is she isn't like a lot of my friends parents she actually cares about me and likes to interact with her children. And she also likes to remind me she has to keep a closer eye on me than my brother because of my "problems".
I know I've put her through a lot but is it unreasonable to want her to back off just a bit, i'm an adult in less than 18 months I just want her to trust me more.