I'm spoilt? Really?

[Wonton]

Lately I've felt a little depressed because of my parents getting divorced, ect. It's more clinical than always being depressed, but whatever. The thing is, when I feel down or mope around my parents always start giving me lectures that I need to stop being a spoilt brat, the world doesn't revolve around me, and that I should stop just moping around all the time. I wish they would actually pay attention to me and actually try to see if there's something wrong with me, rather than just "Oh, kids these days. THey're so spoilt" or some shit like that. It makes me even more depressed.

[Scotland]

Unfortunately some parents are like this, They have a lot on their minds atm with going through a divorce so they fail to see what they are putting you through, if its possible try and have a small talk with them alone just say to them how this is making you feel and try and make them understand that its hurting you as well.

Hope this helps
-Scotland

[heykay]

Yeah, my parents are exactly like this. Its not too fun. They may just have too much to worry about now, but when everything is over and done with and they look at you with clear minds, then maybe they'll try to help. And maybe you could write them an email or note explaining how you feel. I prefer to do this because you don't leave out any big points you may have because you forget them or get cut off by them. Good luck with your parents and I hope it gets better!

[Gordo]

You're moping around! It's not like you are angry or causing problems. man I'd be irked if I was told to quit moping around. I'm not much of a moper, but I understand.

Odd they call you spoiled and yet marriage tend to end over someone being selfish which is another way to say spoiled. Hmmmm. I'd be asking my parents about that aspect for sure, but they'd never call me spoiled either because I know I have more than most kids and they know I know it. If I ask for something and they say no, i just say okay. They aren't going to change their minds, I'm not gonna change their mind, so I don't even want an explanation if the answer is no.

I also know that most of my friends' parents are divorced or remarried and somehow my parents are still married and seem pretty okay with it. I know im luck y in that area too.

[Magenta]

Don't worry about it. The thing is, all humans are selfish. Your parents will have their minds on the divorce and as awful as it sounds, they don't want to deal with your feelings as well. My mum lashed out at me because she didn't know how to handle her own emotions as well as her daughter's. Remember that they're going through a whole different struggle than you are. A divorce is hard on the child but I can only imagine what it's like on the couple. A divorce is an emotionally tolling process on a couple alone... a lot of parents don't know what to do when their child is caught in the middle and a lot of parents react in anger. They sometimes forget that the child has an entirely different perspective on the situation and unless their parents were divorced, they won't know how to relate to your perspective.

It'll die down. They need the time to handle themselves in order to be there for you. There's a lot involved in a divorce... money, living arrangements, emotions, etc. Try not to take too much of it to heart in the meantime. If you can, try to help out around the house more and remind your parents you love them. A lot of parents fear that their child will hate them for breaking up the family. It's normal to be depressed, upset and angry at them but you have to remember that things will settle into a new routine and it will get better.

But it's not all about them. If you can, go out for walks. See friends. Separate yourself from the stressors for awhile just to give the dust some time to settle. This will be a difficult process but there's lots of ways for you to get through it. When my parents divorced, I was eight and spent a lot of time drawing and writing little things. I was younger and couldn't use writing to the best of my ability but you're older and it could help a lot. Just remember when you're down that sometimes big changes like a divorce are for the best... if I learned anything, it was that happy, divorced parents are much better than living in a house with an angry and unhappy couple.

Good luck. :)

[Wonton]

Haha... I used to always get shoved over to my dads by my mom cuz she doesn't want to take care of me...and guess what I do when i'm at my dads... PAINTBALL! Lol, I just go the entire day and forget about everything. It's probably my 'outlet'. I have my own gear and everything.

[Frankie66]

I am in the same boat as you, i hhave just been used to being ignored so yeah i just ignore what they say