Re-evaluating?

[pineinchneis]

Ok, this is quite a long question but if you have the time, please do read it.

I'd known that I wasn't straight for a long time, but I'd been in denial about it for ages. Then about a year ago I labelled myself as bi because I guess it felt not as extreme and I was still at least a bit of a man.
Before, I couldn't imagine having an emotional relationship with a guy but I could with a girl and I could imagine having a sexual relationship with a guy but not with a girl. But now I can imagine having an emotional relationship with as well as a sexual one with a guy, but I can't imagine having an emotional relationship with a girl anymore.
So because of this I thought, maybe I'm not bi but gay instead, but I couldn't justify it to myself because I felt that others would view me as less of a man than if I was bi.
But I can look at a girl and say she's hot but the thought of having sex with a girl just repulses me.
So my question is, do you think I'm gay or bi?

[guacamole24]

Labels are difficult. I think that it is definitely possible that you are gay. Can you still imagine yourself having a relationship with a girl?

[Lights]

Labels are difficult. I think that it is definitely possible that you are gay. Can you still imagine yourself having a relationship with a girl?

The OP said this, therefore I don't think so:
but I can't imagine having an emotional relationship with a girl anymore

As guacamole said though, labels can be difficult things! The important thing is not to get caught up with needing to 'have' a label right now.
Ultimately, only you will be able to know if you're gay or not, but from my stance based on what you've said, I do believe that you're maturing emotionally and beginning to come to terms with being gay.

Don't worry too much if you feel unsure, though. One day you'll just know who you are because you'll have developed and matured enough. You are 15, which can be the peak of puberty for many boys, so it could almost be that your hormones are confusing you at this point in time. That's only a possibility, however; I mean you said you've known for quite a while that you're not straight.

[Gordo]

It sounds really gay to me. It seems you lost interest in girls and that's okay. You've admitted that your interests have changed, so you may change again. I'm sure it's tough, but it sounds like you are being honest with yourself and that reeeeally all you can ask of yourself.

It's tough when you view yourself or society views you as less of a man, but it is what it is. We've set up what is normal and you fall out of societal norm that gay is less manley, but i think the path is accepting yourself and then worrying about what society thinks. Even better is if you don't care what others think of your private choice.

[clr9823]

You sound gay to me, if you can't imagine either a sexual or emotional relationship with a girl. Then again, you are 15 and things can quite easily change; can only take the right girl etc. . But I'd just avoid labels for the moment and see where you go and who you go for.

And yeah, as to being less of a man, I wouldn't really worry too much about that. Being comfortable in your own skin, having other parts to your life, responding well to adversity are far better determinants of one's manliness over who you're attracted to. I have a number of gay and bi friends, some of them are more camp than one could believe and some are in the closet (or just keep it on the down-low, don't make a big deal out of it), are really "manly" and have all the girls swooning over them. Straightness =/= manliness, in my humble opinion.

[Salvi]

i would label you as gay only because you are repulsed by the idea of having sex with a girl. theres nothing wrong with being gay and i know you know that just try to accept yourself :) being gay doesnt make you less than a man.

[boosterboy]

It sounds like you might be gay but being gay makes you no less of a man. I wouldbt label yourself just yet, things could change you never know. PM me if you wanna chat a bit more