Need good advice..

[Ethereal]

Hello, I'm new to this site and I didn't really know where to put this post..
I am a 20yr old heterosexual male and I've had problems getting arroused by the opposite sex for quite some time now and it's so bad that it's getting to the point where I don't even know who i am anymore.

I've scheduled an appointment with a psychiatrist and i feel like i should of done that a long time ago.. I used to be arroused by women pretty much instantly until i started to doubt my sexuality and questioned whether i would like sex or not. Sounds irrational but not when your young and your older brother is gay.. went through some trauma there(mainly cause i thought i was truly gay at one point) and havent been right ever since on the sexuality department..

My worst fears are being gay, never falling in love, and not having eternal life.
I've experimented with guys to try to figure myself out and what not but to no avail.. I;m curious as hell but not gay. And i also barely feel any pleasure...:confused:


Any feedback?

Thank you

[Slytherin_Prince]

So...being gay is a wrong thing now, is it? Why exactly are you afraid of being gay? 0.0
I've been openly gay for 7 years now, and I can't say it has been particularly scary.
Aside from me not understanding why on earth this thread is listed beneath "mental illnesses, I'd recommend you coming to terms with whatever you are, instead of so feverishly focussing on -having- to like girls. I also don't understand why you would go to a psychiatrist just because women don't arouse you anymore, but that's just me.
Finally, I don't see how your older brother being gay affects anything. Perhaps you left something out? If there has been some personal trauma with homosexuality, using that to justify homosexuality as a bad thing is a wrongful generalisation.
Also, have you ever considered the other sexualities? Bisexuality, asexuality, pansexuality, and so forth? I think you should do some research and then make up your mind, instead of seeking "professional" help.

Sincerely,
Robert.

[Ethereal]

Hello Robert,

First of all I want to say thank you for your reply, I really appreciate that.
Now I would like to say that is my first post and I would say that i did leave some things out.. didn't want it to be lengthy in fear that the whole post wont be read.. but hey maybe some people actually care.

I believe my issue is more emotionally based than anything. I consider myself heterosexual because it's what i want and what i believe my sexual preference is. I believe i shouldn't of put this post under this category to be honest with you..But i came to it mainly because i think it's all in my head.

I was just over-sexualized as a child and that can be the basis of what i'm going through now but i'm just a little desperate in getting out of this. I have a depressed mind and chronic anxiety and i'm just like numb. It sucks. I know i have the capacity to be sexually, emotionally, and spiritually fulfilled but i need help getting there.

Now, is beng gay a wrong thing now..not what i meant. However, i just don't that I personally am gay. I just can't overlook women but i'm just going crazy over wanting to figure out what the underlying issues are with me..

Now in terms of trauma, i was fondled and what not as a child but the trauma i went through was probably a bit later when i doubted my sexuality and went through a lot mentally.. i guess i just need closure from that..

The main thing with me though s wanting that male prowess and libido back in which i know i have but i guess i just have some walls up that i made and i lack self knowledge..

Again, thank you. And i'll try to post more to get more feedback.

Sincerely, Juan.