My boyfriend...

[Exo212]

Ok, so a while back my friend and I got into a sexual relationship. We hid it from everybody, but we both talked about it and decided that we were, in fact, boyfriend and boyfriend. (I'm gay if you couldn't tell:rolleyes:)Everything was nice, but all of a sudden he dumped me and got a girlfriend just three days later:confused:. I tried to talk to him but he's ignoring me and will refuse to give me a chance to talk to him:mad:. And it's not like anyone else knew about us, so I can't say anything if we were with other people, because they would realize that we were both gay at one point. Why would he go out with me for a year, keeping our relationship hidden from everyone else, only to up and dump me and act like he never knew me? I wish he would just talk to me! is there anything I can do? Why would he go out with me for a year, then dump me without a single word of explanation?

[Fiction]

Sexuality can be confusing, as i'm sure you're aware.

It could be more that he's rejecting his sexuality? And not rejecting you.

[Exo212]

Then why can't he just tell me he isn't gay anymore? Why does he ignore me? I'm so frustrated...

[Gordo]

I think he just doesn't want to act on his same sex urges anymore. Maybe he was questioning himself and by being with you, he figured out he's straight and now wants to move on without that part of his history. So by ignoring you, it's a clean break - for him.

Clearly he doesn't care about other people and wants what he wants.

He also might have decided to avoid anything gay, even if he is gay and is attempting to live a str8 life. If you would put yourself in his shoes, you'd understand it and that doesn't mean you schould accept it, but you might understand it and that it isn't you that has issues, it's him.

As time goes on, he'll probably be more distant, but maybe only until his current relationship runs it's course. Then maybe he'll call you.

As you must know, being gay is tough and maybe he's not up for the hassle with parents and society, so he's going in a new direction.

[MysticalBurrito]

The fact that it was a "Sexual" relationship could mean that he was using you. It might hurt to think about it, but he wanted to keep it a secret and that doesn't say much. Try to forget about it, and if he comes back to you, seriously consider what he did to you. He might be sincere in his apology but ignoring someone you supposedly liked so much is a extremely asshole move.

[Exo212]

So should I just stop trying to talk to him and try to move on with my life?he was the best things that's ever happened to me, even if it *was* a secret...

[MysticalBurrito]

It might have been the best thing for you, but you do NOT deserve to be treated like that. Someday you'll find someone who would never hurt you like that. Ignore him and try to move on. I wish you the best of luck.

[Dimentio]

Well i am in the closet too and i can only think of one thing, Was he the type of guy who drank and went out and partied a lot? Because with them people, Love is hard to keep strong so it is natural, I have seen it happen a lot but never to me, But if he was a nice and caring guy, Well it seems strange to leave you like that, But he might just og realized he liked the girl or don't jump to this as it is a harsh one but it happened with my mum and dad, Maybe he was seeing her half way with you and just decided he wanted her, Soory some of these ideas seem a bit rough and harsh but they are jsut a few ideas :(

[Exo212]

So you think he was cheating on me? But... I don't think he would do that.l. But then again, he *did* leave me without saying a word...

[Carlyle]

Davis, it might be hard to accept facts, but he is either cheating on you or just isn't able to accept his own sexuality. It might just take some time, rushing it and trying to get answers from him would just anger him and make it frustrating on his behalf.

[Exo212]

Well, I guess... I'll just move on. Or try to. Mabye I should start looking for someone else... But no one in my school is really out of the closet... *sigh* just keep going....

[Jmihas]

Oooh, I feel bad for you.. Well I had that feeling before "Something you really love".. I had a boyfriend before, I really loved him for 3 weeks and I found out he was using me for attention but all I did was leave him and get on with my life, About 1 week later he kneeled down and begged me.. I'm like you serious, No way.

Take this advice, Leave him alone and get on with your life, You WILL find someone special someday!