Talking about sex beforehand

[jrohas]

So my girlfriend and I have been going out for about three months now. When we fool around, we're going a little further each time, and are not too far off from sex now (fingering each other through our underwear, etc.). We talked about sex a few months back somewhat indirectly and I had said that I didn't want to go there yet, and I got a bit of an ambiguous response. However, I'm now ready, and I think she is too given by her body language and willingness to always go further. So my question is, should I just go for it in the heat of the moment and see how she responds, or should I make sure to talk about it ahead of time? If we should discuss it ahead of time, how do I bring it up so it's not super awkward? We never normally discuss hooking up or any of that outside of when we're doing it.

Thanks!

[VirtualTeen9000]

in my opinnion , while making out passionatly , first always have a condom , if the both of you feel like doing it say something like : do you want to do it/ are you ready. I'm not sure if i've helped but that's just my opinnion.I think that if you plan a relationship with her you should do it. Good luck dude.

Btw : how old are the both of you ?

[CrossingtheCourtyard]

You could decide that it be a 'spur of the moment' thing or that you plan for it. I suggest planning ahead and ensuring you have a condom and that she is on birth control first. From there you could plan to have sex at some point, or just let it happen at some time unplanned. Just be sure you're both protected.

[Gordo]

Dont need to talk first. She'll let you know if you are approaching going to far.